Nidhis.daily.blog

Author: nidhikaintura23

  • Nature & Nurture

    Can one be far from the other? A snake can be nurtured to not bite, but shall it never return to it’s true nature which is to bite?

    Yes it would, when pushed to a wall, when threatened and when the fight or fright response kicks in. But humans have trained even their flight or fight response, like a double edged sword. Centuries of conditional upbringing and societal orthodoxes impact our responses sub-conciously. Unawares, we tend to utilize our nurturings more often than the nature and often nurture becomes too comfortable to be our nature altogether.

    This explains the late awakenings of many beings. Who in the journey of self-discovery wonder why didn’t the obvious response come to them by nature? The answer lies in what they were nurtured to believe in.

  • One guru trap

    By guru I don’t mean the dhoti clad, self proclaimed god-men. I mean what if you were living, thriving and growing by the principles of one and only one person – could be your parent, your spouse or a friend you are enamored with. Wouldn’t that blindside you, giving you no perspective that’s different than theirs.

    It would be terrific to subscribe to the views and behaviours of various experts. Follow a health coach for your fitness goals, look upto a successful professional on your field for career guidance and speak to a parent-role model for your parenting woes. Limiting ourselves to a uni-dimensional life and thoughts of one is certainly not a growth path. Seek your tribe in all your spheres and cherish the real connections you make along the way.

  • Where do you belong?

    Mountains or beach?

    Tea or coffee?

    Big city or Small town?

    Past or Future?

    Global or local?

    Personal or Professional?

    Traditional or Contemporary?

    This or that?

    Have you ever felt that you don’t belong to either. That you have a bit of both but don’t completely identify with just one of the two. Welcome to the world of ambivalents – those who are neither extremes but lie somewhere in the middle. The good part – you get best of both worlds. The bad part – neither has your heart.

  • Expect the unexpected

    Step 1 : We read, we process.

    Step 2 : We assume, we analyze.

    Step 3 : We prepare, we review.

    & then life throws one of its curveballs. The unexpected. Go to step 1 and repeat.

    Between the ‘process, prepare, repeat’ cycle, life happens. We can choose to beat ourselves down everytime the unexpected happens or can continue to adjust all the while humming our favourite tune.

  • Household Productivity

    Often considered an alternate economy, household productivity does support the mainstream economy and boosts domestic output albeit indirectly. Household productivity or the time spent in chores done to keep the home in order aren’t considered a part of nation’s economy as it alters the conventional parameters and can be misleading in policy making decisions.

    A proxy indicator can be utilization of automation and outsourcing. Automation indicators like sales of refrigerators, washing-drying machines, dishwashers, robotic vaccum cleaners, etc are already part of Gross Domestic Product. It’s time now that outsourcing chores also gets measurable indicators and thereby included in the formal economy. For example childcare, gardening, home maintenance and likes are already listed services available in developed nations. Adding cooking cleaning, laundry, pet care, etc to the catalogue would make it comprehensive and give more dignity to these workers.

    Here’s wishing for more power to the unorganised sector in the future decades! ๐Ÿ’ช

  • Groceries got a Gender!

    When did grocery shopping get gender-ised?! When a gourmet grocery outlet opened in my locality last month, the late-adopter in me sat back and waited to pickup the feedback buzz from the early birds. While that took longer than a month, I happened to browse through their website via a local number which came into circulation as a group forwarded on a WhatsApp.

    While the outlet itself is a part of the larger retail group and hence gets credibility from the corporate brand, I was aghast to find labels like ‘her’, ‘she’ in describing their target customer segment and clientele on a public forum. As far as I remember, grocery was simple affair where the man got supplies what the woman cooked. Seems men got smarter to offload this ‘homely’ chore in the turn of the century and women lapped it up like a glorified shopping experience!

  • เคœเคนเคพเค ‘เคšเคนเคพ’, เคตเคนเคพเค เคฐเคพเคน

    Whether your poison is tea or not, read on.

    Yes that’s not a typo but a spin on the Indian version of “where there’s a will, there’s a way” in the context of tea-lovers. Wonder if you faced the same social backlash as me when you were caught at a bar saying your poison is tea/coffee or any other non alcoholic beverage!

    For all the teetotallers out here, are we a shrinking minority? Would we soon be what dinosaurs and mammoth are today – extinct? Would bars, pubs and clubs soon start charging premium entry cover since we don’t guzzle our way to the bill? Or would society start ostracising us by banning us from social setups since we are too bore a sober to join the scene?

    Hopefully none of the above! They are all ramblings from an idle mind which is down one cup tea and a ‘grande’ latte by mid-noon already.

  • Daddy’s day

    Social media gets flooded each ‘celebratory’ day – pressure posts by peers and ads by every big or small seller. Good for economy to push consumerism, meh for consumers who are discerning enough to separate the noise from the reality.

    It’s nice to be with the crowd but even better to make memories your own way. Afterall no two dads are the same, so why copy-paste the wishes!

  • เคตเคจเคตเคพเคธ – into the jungle

    Unhinged, unbridled and without any strings attached. It is good to spend sometime like this. A ‘once a week’ refuge, for a few hours, should help the weary soul to rejuvenate.

    Call it detox, self care or priortising oneself – it is about shedding the load of the ‘roles’ we play in life and being with oneself, minus the luxuries and privileges of modern life. A เคตเคจเคตเคพเคธ (sanskrit for exile into the forest) from connections and devices – the modern day trap.

    Corporate mode : OFF. Parent mode : OFF. Vanvaas(Back to basic life) mode : ON

  • Curse of Memory

    Humand mind can travel faster than speed of light. It keeps taking memory trains; jetting out of one decade and zooming into nostalgia all at the drop of a hat. This flight can take one back to what one misses the most.

    But it’s an adulterous relationship. Where one exists here but lives there. And truly never allows oneself to give their one hundred percent to the here & now. That which is tangible deserves your best. That which is present is who you are. Choose loyalty to the present, choose loyalty to thy self.