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Tag: adulting

  • One life, many lives

    Do you only live once? Or is it that you live multitude lives in a lifetime. Afterall, every few years or decades one is living a life completely different from the previous in more than one ways. Nothing is the same. The physical body undergoes changes, intelligence grows, mind expands and the soul transforms. Every new phase of being brings a new role, a new title and a new personality to the forefront. Seems the term YOLO is just to keep encouraging to live better and not delay gratification. Not just in this one life but the many lives we live.

    As a kid, maximize play. As a teen, maximize exposure. As a young adult maximize learning. As a new-spouse, maximize togetherness. As a parent, maximize growth. As an older adult, maximize friendship. In your silver years, maximize giving. It could be this and much more for each of this time bucket. In fact some could be constant goals manifested differently for different time of life. In short, fretting about one life and too much to do is a stress-inducing point of view. Think of your journey of life as many lives rolled into one, where you have constant chances of being a better version, at every age and stage of the sojourn!

  • Mending your own garden

    Adulting can be tough. Brutal. Almost like a mortal combat with oneself. Both in the mind and body. And yet it’s exponential growth, by leaps and bounds.

    To pick up life essential skills like cooking, managing a household and keeping a living being alive is no means feat. On surface it’s burnt fingers, uncooked food and messy room.

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    But underneath is victory, raw and fulfilling. Just like mending your own garden to find the flowers blooming. Right back at you.

  • Bestie

    Who’s your best friend mommy? Asked my 7 year old kiddo. This isn’t the first time she’s asked this. I would usually answer you or daddy. But now she wants ‘someone not from the family’ for an answer. And starts rattling off the names she knows – my colleagues, neighbours, my gym buddies, my girl-friends I catch up with.

    Sadly my bestie isn’t know to her. She doesn’t stay in town nor do we meet even once a year. We are both busy adulting; navigating family, career and kids. But when we pause and chat, we talk and we talk like we were talking just yesterday. And yet we know each other like most won’t and got each other’s back, always. If there is one person I know who keeps me in her prayer – thats my girl!

    So you are lucky if you have yours right in town. Hold on tight to that buddy of yours!

  • The subtle art of making (& keeping) friendships

    Is it even an art? Did making friends not come naturally to us as kids? When did friendship become (almost) as complicated as dating?

    In today’s hyperconnected world with shrinking attention spans, making connections that last has truly become a task. And we are talking about adult friendships here when you can’t spend evenings after evenings at the local bar, weekends at the fav discotheque cos you have a family to get back to (maybe even a kid or two looking for your attention). It gets even harder isn’t it, trying to spend time is more strategic than a game of chess in that phase of life!

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    So be the Wing (wo)man when you can – thankfully  even IMs, chats and ‘liking’  SM posts are considered legit form of communication these days. So bless you, don’t have to be the 3am agony aunt but just hang around when your schedule allows you to.

    & then there are those friends who like to get challenged. They engage with you to get a different PoV, so go ahead and get your intellectual fill as well!

    And the last kinds just want you to be a good listener,an empathiser they can count on, someone who is their safe space.

    So find your frequency, pick the phone and dial/chat up with that friend. Maybe they too have been meaning to reach out but have been lost adulting.  🫰