I beg never have you come across any piece of art titled that! Save that brilliant movie which captures the pains of a separation.
But no series, movie, book captures the essence of what happens happily ever after. Where the ‘reel’ love story ends and the real life begins. Where two individuals start co-existing, discovering each other’s blind spots and navigating couple goals. Not all roses, not all thorns. Now that the journey has gotten rolling, better take the scenic route buddy!
Group dynamics are interesting social settings to ponder over. & here are my observations from the past decade of friendships.
A two-person setup keeps it tight, personal and sometimes even deep. Deep gossip or deep intellectual – it can swing from either extreme. Yet it’s an unsigned deal between the two folks to keep the conversation to themselves as these are shared in privacy as both confide in each other.
Make it three individuals and the setting becomes a bit more less intimate, more formal and way more lighter. Of course it can get weird with one feeling left out while the other two bond and the dynamics get a bit odd (literally and figuratively as well). After all, the odd (wo) man out has no option but to listen in and try to fit in!
But add another person and cross-talks are an option now! Nobody feels left out as you can pick up another conversation with the fourth guy. Now it’s all fun and laughter, good humored banter sprinkled with bitching and whining where all join in with their experiences. No room for sad or serious topics here mind you as all are full of jest.
Whatever your cup of tea; tango or tri-party or full-blown party; keep sipping as much and as often from all the flavors of life. After all YOLO 😉
You fell head over heels for someone, cupid struck you with love at first sight? Or did you follow a dating algorithm and sieve through a list of potential suitors?
If the former, it is likely that underlying chemistry played a bigger role in turning the courtship into lifelong commitment. After all, love is a game played by the hearts and not the minds ☺️
If the later, it is likely that underlying compatibility played a larger part in formalizing the courtship. You may have consciously (or on a subconscious) level analysed how they fit into your life goals – personal and professional.
Either way, your work towards your marriage is cut out ‘cos both these ingredients are rightfully required for a successful partnership. If your chemistry is awesome, work on being more compatible and the other way around holds true too. After all, we may fall in love with our soul but to stay in love needs both mind as well as soul.
Is being romantic only the territory of couples? How can singles keep the romance in life alive?
Romance is nothing but a feeling of mystery and excitement, often associated with love. It takes you away from everyday life and builds a sense of remoteness.
Love yourself – Spend time your own way without any shackles or constraints. Unhinged and unabashedly keep aside a few minutes everyday to spend time the way you like, not dictated by your daily routine, chores or family commitments.
Prioritize yourself – Hobbies, food, outfits, events. The choice is yours and only yours. Guard it selfishly, cos if you don’t decide for yourself then others would!
Keep your network alive – Whether it is friends, family or colleagues keep in touch and invest your time in nurturing these for the future. After all no man’s an island (or woman for that matter).
In short enjoy the little things in life. Sans anyone. Be the best companion you can ever get, full of positivity and strength. Trust me, no one can do it for you!
As I settle at my cup of coffee on this wonderful day, my mind wanders to the message I received from a long lost friend. & I wonder what if one has to choose between love and friendship. I don’t mean choosing between your lover and your friends, I mean what if you can only either be a friend or a lover to someone.
The new generation calls it friendzoning i.e., turning a potential lover into a friend and thereby in the parking lot. And that works well for keeping a list of ‘warm leads’ or potential future partners as the youngsters want to explore more options before settling into a commitment with one.
I wonder if there could be another use case for friendzone. Could it be used to part ways amicably and still keep friends with someone who knows you like no one else. Someone you have loved truly madly deeply.
In short, can lovers ever be friends?
In the midst of the work life balance debate sparked by the management of a leading Indian conglomerate, I would like to flip the narrative from the lens of a wife. The wife who lovingly waits for her husband to be back from a long tiring day of work (and the commute most undertake to reach their place of work on a daily basis) and spend quality time with her. She’s been busy managing the home and family single handedly.
The wife who is equally burnt out after her day of work (and related commute). She battled the first shift of paid work and is now in her second shift of unpaid work tending to the home and family.
In all probability, the wife (or girlfriend) is your companion for longer than your employer is going to be. So go ahead and invest time (and diamonds) in your better half. She is your pillar of strength, the source of constant warmth, the consistent cheerleader who doesn’t bat an eyelid being critical.
Speaking everyday, yet connecting once a year. Knowing all about sport and not aware my own sibling is a tennis champ. Everytime I meet you I meet you for the first time. Happy Rakshabandhan didi.
Everytime I think I know you inside out, you come up with new lingo. Everytime I think I have taught you all, you come up with questions beyond. Everytime I think you are grown up enough, your emotions catch me. I gave you birth but you gave me life. Love you to the moon and back my child.
We met, we chatted, we fell in love. We married, we became parents, we got busier with our jobs. Days became weeks and weeks became months as we kept juggling the curveballs of life. A cup of tea here, a moment of quiet there is when a new you meets a new me.
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