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  • 40 before 40 – Part IV

    ‘Forty till I die’ is the new mantra these days. Afterall we are past our learnings in career, relationship and child rearing by now, so seems this is the gorgeous ‘be yourself, be free’ decade to live life queen size. So here is the last in the series of what every woman should aim to get under her belt before turning 40!

    Set soft guardrails : Don’t be a doormat. Set reasonable boundaries to secure your energies. Be soft yet intentional about spending your time wisely.

    Find your comfort food : A family dish, a neighbourhood meal – whatever is your pick, keep it handy and accessible. Afterall a known pallete can lift moods just like that.

    Balance it out : You don’t have to be prim and perfect all the time. Allow yourself to be human and have your days – both glamorous and homebody. Maturity is behaving the same externally irrespective of your internal mood chart.

    Stay informed : Needless to say, it’s an era of information overload. So it’s hard to miss the buzz – social, political, economical unless you have been living under a rock. A fair awareness of the pulse helps you formulate opinions when required.

    Forgive & forget : Be kind. Start with yourself first. Others come next. Afterall life is too short to keep scores and even them out.

    Delegate and doze off : Learn to outsource, offload and organize your time better. Make peace with quality of work and don’t bother micro-managing the new task owner. Whether at work or home, reward yourself with bytes of free time this way.

    Art of critique : It takes practise to give feedback without hurting. Yet your wise words should be action-worthy or they sound hollow. Perfect this interpersonal skill to manevour life more smoothly.

    Explore a new genre : Come on, you arent too old to try a new form. Whether it’s dance, music, cinema or or art, step out of the comfort zone. Give a new genre an honest shot and you may end up being a fan yourself!

    Embrace aging with grace : The greys, wrinkles, fine lines or whatever signs of aging you are showing up – it makes you you. Lap them up with grace and charm. Lady you are worth all the years you have lived so why hide behind young veils!

    Plan special days : & don’t wait for anyone to do it for you. Cos by now you have perfected the art of planning for others so time to shower yourself with love too. Take the pressure off others and dwell in the memories made!

  • 40 before 40 – Part II

    The fuck it forties – a unique yet apt title by a friend who is almost finished sailing through her fourth decade around the sun. Maybe, maybe not, but anyways may your aging be as exciting as this time bucket list! So I am continuing to jot down the accomplishments that every woman should aim to get under her belt before turning 40.

    Do your bit for the nature. Afterall we got only one planet earth as there is no plan B. So start small by saving electricity, sorting your garbage, switching to sustainable products and practices. Then take some formal steps with like minded folks, the local community and be a sustainability champion whom people follow even IRL.

    Build basic knowledge of your spiritual scriptures. Maybe you are god-fearing, maybe you are not. In either ways, a good thorough read of your religious scriptures might leave you with a deep understanding of philosophy, way of life and a know-how of how to navigate daily life. So whatever be your spiritual awareness level today, consuming bite sized information would only add dimension to your aging!

    Do nothing day. Yes you heard it right, mark it on your calendars and swear by it. Think of it as a day of ‘paid time off’ from your role and titles. If you are a home-maker, do no chores on this day. If you are employed or self-employed, take a day off spend time on a hobby deeply. If you are a new mom, just ditch childcare and pamper yourself by stepping out in your finest outfits!

    Friend date. Because finding a date is hard work but friends are always here for you! So step out with your girlfriend and have a gala time.

    Bike. Or if you are a biker girl, gear up and push the pedal (or the gear). After all who doesn’t like the thrill of breeze in your hair, some sweat on the forehead and a freewheeling ride down the neighbourhood.

    Grow a plant. There is no greater wonder in the world than watching a living being grow. So sow some seeds or invest in a sapling from the friendly nursery and start nurturing the plant. Build it into your daily routine and be proud of keeping it alive & thriving as a responsible adult.

    Hike. Being in nature is a natural endorphin booster. A cheap and free dose of feel good with some cardio and fresh air to top it with.

    DIY. Build something with your own hands, from scratch. It could be as simple as an origami craft, a new recipe or a lovely crochet that you have saved on your pinterest board since long.

    Handywoman. Spend a day with the toolbox and go all around the house fixing all the loose screws & hanging nuts and bolts. As they say a stitch in time saves nine, derive some sense of accomplishment by being the lady version of a ‘handyman’.

    Face yoga. Aging but wanting to age with grace. Then find some good source of face yoga, the basic ones which use muscle pull without using fancy equipments or more investments than what you already have. & thank me later for saving you a million in face lifts and tucks which your dermatologist would have earned instead.