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Tag: friendship

  • May nothing hold you back

    Indeed keep me guessing

    or maybe start confessing.

    Wishing for more grace, more charm,

    afterall no enemies here, there’s no harm!

    May nothing hold you back.

    It is my own sowing that I reap,

    In these times of wails, cries or weeps.

    Time heals wounds, but not entirely the scars,

    So choose to hide behind the high veiled bars.

    May nothing hold you back.

    Its easy to romanticize what’s no more,

    Not easy to face it chin up, easier to stay sore.

    Queasy to make room for new ways of being,

    To be held dearly, yet not be heard or be seen.

    May nothing hold you back.

    Don’t payback, it ain’t a game of karma,

    Not wishing for spats showdowns or any drama.

    Make room for forgiveness, kindness & above and over,

    to choose meaningful actions over mere will power.

    May nothing hold you back.

  • BFF culture

    Online universe :

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    Meanwhile in the offline universe :

    4 missed calls from Kate.

    2 unread messages from Kate.

    Kate who?

  • Tribe of pals

    Give it time. Let it be organic. Add some space sprinkle some humour and throw in some talks. While socialization is immediate and wider in reach, making friendships last is precise yet organic.

    It requires overlooking that random comment, a weird conversation once in a while and some abrupt time-outs. Learning to let go yet tredding difficult conversations – it is a tightwalk indeed. Yet rewarding as you find your humans, your tribe. One friend at a time.

  • Bestie

    Who’s your best friend mommy? Asked my 7 year old kiddo. This isn’t the first time she’s asked this. I would usually answer you or daddy. But now she wants ‘someone not from the family’ for an answer. And starts rattling off the names she knows – my colleagues, neighbours, my gym buddies, my girl-friends I catch up with.

    Sadly my bestie isn’t know to her. She doesn’t stay in town nor do we meet even once a year. We are both busy adulting; navigating family, career and kids. But when we pause and chat, we talk and we talk like we were talking just yesterday. And yet we know each other like most won’t and got each other’s back, always. If there is one person I know who keeps me in her prayer – thats my girl!

    So you are lucky if you have yours right in town. Hold on tight to that buddy of yours!

  • First Love Yourself

    Humans are social beings. But being social is often mistaken to being dependent.

    A self-reliant and self-assured person can make better connections with others. Connections that meaningfully resonate, last a lifetime and are fulfilling to both parties.

    In a nutshell be thy best friend and companion – no one’s coming to rescue you.

  • It takes two to tango ( and plenty to party)

    Group dynamics are interesting social settings to ponder over. & here are my observations from the past decade of friendships.
    A two-person setup keeps it tight, personal and sometimes even deep. Deep gossip or deep intellectual – it can swing from either extreme. Yet it’s an unsigned deal between the two folks to keep the conversation to themselves as these are shared in privacy as both confide in each other.

    1, 2, 3, 4, get on the dance floor

    Make it three individuals and the setting becomes a bit more less intimate, more formal and way more lighter. Of course it can get weird with one feeling left out while the other two bond and the dynamics get a bit odd (literally and figuratively as well). After all, the odd (wo) man out has no option but to listen in and try to fit in!
    But add another person and cross-talks are an option now! Nobody feels left out as you can pick up another conversation with the fourth guy. Now it’s all fun and laughter, good humored banter sprinkled with bitching and whining where all join in with their experiences. No room for sad or serious topics here mind you as all are full of jest.
    Whatever your cup of tea; tango or tri-party or full-blown party; keep sipping as much and as often from all the flavors of life. After all YOLO 😉

  • The subtle art of making (& keeping) friendships

    Is it even an art? Did making friends not come naturally to us as kids? When did friendship become (almost) as complicated as dating?

    In today’s hyperconnected world with shrinking attention spans, making connections that last has truly become a task. And we are talking about adult friendships here when you can’t spend evenings after evenings at the local bar, weekends at the fav discotheque cos you have a family to get back to (maybe even a kid or two looking for your attention). It gets even harder isn’t it, trying to spend time is more strategic than a game of chess in that phase of life!

    Table for two

    So be the Wing (wo)man when you can – thankfully  even IMs, chats and ‘liking’  SM posts are considered legit form of communication these days. So bless you, don’t have to be the 3am agony aunt but just hang around when your schedule allows you to.

    & then there are those friends who like to get challenged. They engage with you to get a different PoV, so go ahead and get your intellectual fill as well!

    And the last kinds just want you to be a good listener,an empathiser they can count on, someone who is their safe space.

    So find your frequency, pick the phone and dial/chat up with that friend. Maybe they too have been meaning to reach out but have been lost adulting.  🫰

  • I’ll be there for you ☺️

    There are friends who laugh with you, build good times and lasting memories. & then there are friends who sense the urgency and seriousness in your tone even on a text.

    Whatever the day, time or situation at their own end, they stick it out for you. Being the listener to your woes, the agony aunt to your crying and the empathetic ear to all your rantings. But then they also snap you out of your self propagated miseries, throw a line to pull you out of your self victimization and offer contrary views to probe your mind to think differently.

    That’s your best buddy, your 3 am friend, your safe space. Cheers to them & cheers to you for having them!

  • Love or friendship?

    As I settle at my cup of coffee on this wonderful day, my mind wanders to the message I received from a long lost friend. & I wonder what if one has to choose between love and friendship. I don’t mean choosing between your lover and your friends, I mean what if you can only either be a friend or a lover to someone.

    The new generation calls it friendzoning i.e., turning a potential lover into a friend and thereby in the parking lot. And that works well for keeping a list of ‘warm leads’ or potential future partners as the youngsters want to explore more options before settling into a commitment with one.

    I wonder if there could be another use case for friendzone. Could it be used to part ways amicably and still keep friends with someone who knows you like no one else. Someone you have loved truly madly deeply.

    In short, can lovers ever be friends?

  • Burden of memories

    For all the years past, all the love lost and all the silence borne. I wish I could cry in your arms until the tears stopped flowing. I wish I could erase the memories sparing just the laughs. I wish I could ease the pain until only love remained.

    I wish I could find words to express. Courage to ask forgiveness. Strength to meet you. Intellect to rein emotions. I want to keep the memories minus the aches, the experience without the trauma and the faces without the words that were exchanged.

    In forgiveness I seek freedom. Freedom from guilt, ache, painful memories and all the sufferings related to it. For in my mind I am still the wrong doer who is out free and hence doesn’t deserve to be happy.