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  • Complementary Better Half

    Most people would like to settle for a life partner who is exactly like them. Like a siamese twin! But think of it if both partners think alike a 100%, there would be no diversity of thoughts and inclusivity of opinions. In short no room for growth 🤔

    Flourish don’t flounder

    How about someone who complements you? Not like showering praises but supplements your persona. They cover those bases that you don’t, their strength lies in areas where you struggle and they view life a little differently than you!

    Yes there would be friction, debates and different points of view; but then isn’t growth a tad bit uncomfortable. 😇

  • How to make your marriage work

    Matches may be made in heaven but marriages are made on earth and need nurturing like any other earthling. So whether you choose your spouse or your parents did, whether you dated your spouse for long time or few months, it is rare that 2 people are doing the ‘waltz’ absolutely in sync all the time. There would be mis-steps here and a beat lost there, but as long as you can correct your form – the show can go on!

    Here is my mantra of keeping at it, coming from a pool of decades of marriage experience and multiple conversations with married couples.

    Team work – It’s a team play with your spouse, so there can be only 1 leader at a time. So lead here, follow there. ‘cos 200% is also a problem so don’t expect a 100% from them every single time.  There would always be a leader and a follower in each situation, keep true to your strengths and let the other person lead too.

    Preserving individuality – Keeping to your me time and staying true to it. Yes we could spend every living moment with our spouse, but trust me that would leave you with no room (literally). So keep to your hobbies, a happier you would result in a happier ‘us’.

    Acknowledging the differences – not turning your spouse into your clone, after all you married then for being themselves. Easier said than done but please embrace the diversity they bring – whether in food or parenting.

    Talk talk talk, just talk it out. Don’t sleep over the arguments, cold war doesn’t help anyone ever. So whatever be the situation, make sure to communicate with your spouse and not just shut down.

    So keep coming back to these basics to keep life stress free. After all no marriage is perfect by design, you have to make it memorable by choice.

  • Husbands, keep staring at your wife!

    In the midst of the work life balance debate sparked by the management of a leading Indian conglomerate, I would like to flip the narrative from the lens of a wife. The wife who lovingly waits for her husband to be back from a long tiring day of work (and the commute most undertake to reach their place of work on a daily basis) and spend quality time with her. She’s been busy managing the home and family single handedly.

    The wife who is equally burnt out after her day of work (and related commute). She battled the first shift of paid work and is now in her second shift of unpaid work tending to the home and family.

    In all probability, the wife (or girlfriend) is your companion for longer than your employer is going to be. So go ahead and invest time (and diamonds) in your better half. She is your pillar of strength, the source of constant warmth, the consistent cheerleader who doesn’t bat an eyelid being critical.

  • How to train your Husband

    A supportive hubby is a fundamental necessity for any working woman. Once the invisible load is shared equally, it gives wings to both spouses to fulfill their ambitions. Alas fully trained husbands are superbly low in supply. So here’s how to become an in-house trainer.

    The early bird catches the worm so can be applied to the boyfriend as well. So start early by constructing simple single verb tasks for him. Keep doling out atomic tasks thereby enabling him to manage the whole area say laundry or dishes end to end by the end of the training period.

    Nothing better than training our sons – after all childhood lessons shape the personality. Teaching life skills like cooking, meal planning, running a home to a boy ensures we add to the supply pool of future ‘trained husbands’. Yes you can thank me later.

  • Everytime I meet you I meet you for the first time

    Speaking everyday, yet connecting once a year. Knowing all about sport and not aware my own sibling is a tennis champ. Everytime I meet you I meet you for the first time. Happy Rakshabandhan didi.

    Everytime I think I know you inside out, you come up with new lingo. Everytime I think I have taught you all, you come up with questions beyond. Everytime I think you are grown up enough, your emotions catch me. I gave you birth but you gave me life. Love you to the moon and back my child.

    We met, we chatted, we fell in love. We married, we became parents, we got busier with our jobs. Days became weeks and weeks became months as we kept juggling the curveballs of life. A cup of tea here, a moment of quiet there is when a new you meets a new me.