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Tag: love

  • Arranged Love Marriage

    So traditionally, in many societies marriages are ‘arranged’ for the offsprings. Examples with reasoning for Kings, noblemen, commoners.

    & then there is the modern millennial era where marriage is for formalising your ‘love’. You meet your dream partner, whether in your 20s, 30s, 40s or even 50s and since your chemistry is a 200% and dopamine is rushing through your body from head to toe so you marry them.

    Same same but different

    Yet there is room for the new age marriages, those that are done for either reason and still holding fort (though not love nither significance) for being a social contract which has mutual benefits. One spouse (or maybe both) have realized that their better half isn’t the person of their dreams, and may never be yet they carry on. Coping could mean insulating by means of apathy, indifference or even plain ignoring the thorns. For the outside world (social media or otherwise) they are perfect, all conventional life goals accomplished or on track to accomplish. Yet on the inside there is no connect, no love, no tenderness left. I term this the arranged love marriage. Cos love is lost but you are arranging to carry on 😉

  • Right or wrong?

    To accept is right but to expect is wrong?

    To mourn is right but to desire is wrong?

    To dream is right but to hope is wrong?

    To love is right but to love again is wrong?

    To loose is right but to gain is wrong?

    To move on is right but to reconnect is wrong?

    To fall apart is right but to bridge the gap is wrong?

    To answer is right but to question is wrong?

    To suffer silently is right but to change is wrong?

    To detach is right but to rekindle is wrong?

    To wait is right but to wait until eternity is definitely wrong!❤️

  • What matters next?

    It’s the hi-tech millenia of artificial intelligence, robots and intelligent automation. Humanity is making strides in all branchs of science. Yet in our minds success is mere material, monetary and magnanimus achievements. A bigger apartment, a flashier car, the latest gadgets, another wrist watch. And the wishlist continues, like an bottomless pit.

    Kindness costs nothing

    In a world that prizes constant consumption, how about chasing kindness, empathy and companionship as goals. A world where good behaviour is embraced and warmth is the love language. How about being on a journey where everyone is valued for their existence and the uniqueness they bring to the table.

    So when did you last hear a kid being praised for being kind. In the recent past, do you recall patting your partner for being an empathetic being. Infact when did you pause to count a reconnection with a long lost friend as a personal win. Normalising humanity isn’t rocket science but this surely needs a collective recollect and reset in our over-stimulated cortex!

  • Lady love

    Wallowing, pining, longing, craving, desiring, crying for lost love.

    How do you picturize these words? A guy pining for his lady love. Because that’s what you mostly grew up consuming! Most songs, movies, pop culture show the male lead looking to sing for his lady love. Can we females pine, wallow, miss and remember our lost love or is this also a male dominated territory?

    Half of my heart

  • Chemistry or Compatibility : Why did you marry your spouse?

    You fell head over heels for someone, cupid struck you with love at first sight? Or did you follow a dating algorithm and sieve through a list of potential suitors?

    If the former, it is likely that underlying chemistry played a bigger role in turning the courtship into lifelong commitment. After all, love is a game played by the hearts and not the minds ☺️

    If the later, it is likely that underlying compatibility played a larger part in formalizing the courtship. You may have consciously (or on a subconscious) level analysed how they fit into your life goals – personal and professional.

    Either way, your work towards your marriage is cut out ‘cos both these ingredients are rightfully required for a successful partnership. If your chemistry is awesome, work on being more compatible and the other way around holds true too. After all, we may fall in love with our soul but to stay in love needs both mind as well as soul.

  • Can we love twice?

    ‘We only live once, we only love once’ went the famous dialogue from a romantic love story. Read along to prove its untrue and yes you can learn to love multiple times over.

    How do u define what love is to your kid? Is it an overwhelming sense of affection, or is it a strong sense of attachment or is it a sense of deep concern? There is no one feeling which can describe it accurately. And no one way of expressing one’s love.

    When you feel a strong sense of affection towards your baby, it is nothing but the feeling of love. You show it by your actions of taking utmost care of it, doing all you can to keep it safe and away from any harms.

    Or is love the deep sense of concern you shower on your lover? Wherein you can or cannot care by your actions but go all lengths to express your concern for their well being. Where all you can do is communicate in formal ways and let them drive their own well being.

    Or is love the charged level of enthusiasm which makes you spend hours watching football? Or the deep belief in climate change or Downs syndrome which drives you to go lengths to give your time to support the cause.

    Or is love the passion you express for your spouse or partner? The sense of unbroken commitment, lifelong fidelity and infinite companionship which makes you commit to them.

    So to me all forms of love are true, pure and sincere. And yes you can harbour each of them in your mighty little heart for your loved ones – all at the same time.

  • Romance for the single souls?

    Is being romantic only the territory of couples? How can singles keep the romance in life alive?

    Romance is nothing but a feeling of mystery and excitement, often associated with love. It takes you away from everyday life and builds a sense of remoteness.

    Love yourself  – Spend time your own way without any shackles or constraints. Unhinged and unabashedly keep aside a few minutes everyday to spend time the way you like, not dictated by your daily routine, chores or family commitments.

    Prioritize yourself – Hobbies, food, outfits, events. The choice is yours and only yours. Guard it selfishly, cos if you don’t decide for yourself then others would!

    Keep your network alive – Whether it is friends, family or colleagues keep in touch and invest your time in nurturing these for the future. After all no man’s an island (or woman for that matter).

    In short enjoy the little things in life. Sans anyone. Be the best companion you can ever get, full of positivity and strength. Trust me, no one can do it for you!

  • Love or friendship?

    As I settle at my cup of coffee on this wonderful day, my mind wanders to the message I received from a long lost friend. & I wonder what if one has to choose between love and friendship. I don’t mean choosing between your lover and your friends, I mean what if you can only either be a friend or a lover to someone.

    The new generation calls it friendzoning i.e., turning a potential lover into a friend and thereby in the parking lot. And that works well for keeping a list of ‘warm leads’ or potential future partners as the youngsters want to explore more options before settling into a commitment with one.

    I wonder if there could be another use case for friendzone. Could it be used to part ways amicably and still keep friends with someone who knows you like no one else. Someone you have loved truly madly deeply.

    In short, can lovers ever be friends?

  • Burden of memories

    For all the years past, all the love lost and all the silence borne. I wish I could cry in your arms until the tears stopped flowing. I wish I could erase the memories sparing just the laughs. I wish I could ease the pain until only love remained.

    I wish I could find words to express. Courage to ask forgiveness. Strength to meet you. Intellect to rein emotions. I want to keep the memories minus the aches, the experience without the trauma and the faces without the words that were exchanged.

    In forgiveness I seek freedom. Freedom from guilt, ache, painful memories and all the sufferings related to it. For in my mind I am still the wrong doer who is out free and hence doesn’t deserve to be happy.