Sometime we can unknowingly invite troubles by asking for help. Especially help from aging parents, who are at times erratic and not consistent in their responses. Logic and rationale seems to surpass them many a times, making us wonder if they are the same adults who brought us up.
They grow selfish, trying to guard themselves even while helping their own children. In the middle of all this, they unknowingly throw you – the (grown up) child, under the bus. I am sure no parent, however old, would do it on purpose. But its most likely an outcome of a battle in their mind. On one hand they think ‘I have done enough for my child’ and on other hand they tell themselves ‘I should now look for myself’.
Not much to do here for the (grown up) child. Except for taking the path of self reliance, keeping expectations superbly low and undercutting on your asks from them. It’s physics after all, less strain equals better longevity!
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