Nidhis.daily.blog

Tag: socializing

  • The company one keeps

    A man is known by the company he keeps. Maybe because birds of a feather flock together. But what if the bird is on a migratory visit, out of its homeland. Trying to fit-in due to the absence of its home turf. Or maybe it’s yet to find its tribe and hence is fleetingly vibing with a certain kind.

    Would it still be fair to judge the birdie or fit it into a box? To pass judgement and decide on its fate because it chirps with a certain type?

    Yes the way you choose to spend time does reflect on your personality, taste and standards. And influence does shape our habits, ideologies and behaviours. But haven’t we taken social judgment to our hearts nowadays. We are supremely quick with speedy conclusions to box a person into a certain category. Rushing to group similar individuals basis the exterior traits they exhibit. So yes we do gravitate towards people with similar taste but there are a zillion shaping forces which factor into our personalities. So no we can’t always be told by our acquaintances and yes choosing friends for life is always a natural phenomenon. Thus ultimately you are a sum of the true friends you hold dear – the ones who uplift you, the ones who cheer for you, even the ones who scold you for doubting yourself. So enjoy the fleeting acquaintances like hopping from one set of friends to another. & explore hangouts without the guilt of getting labelled – there is no dearth of public gospel anyways!

  • (Un) Social Butterfly

    There are the social butterflies.

    There are the anti-social loners.

    And then there are unsocial beings, who crave to be both but are neither.

    They enjoy company in discrete doses but also adore solitude in measured quantities.

    They are not the heart of the party nor the sore thumb sitting in a dark corner.

    They blend in and blend out with ease. Choosing to flutter, choosing to go into the cocoon – all by their own will and might 😎

  • It takes two to tango ( and plenty to party)

    Group dynamics are interesting social settings to ponder over. & here are my observations from the past decade of friendships.
    A two-person setup keeps it tight, personal and sometimes even deep. Deep gossip or deep intellectual – it can swing from either extreme. Yet it’s an unsigned deal between the two folks to keep the conversation to themselves as these are shared in privacy as both confide in each other.

    1, 2, 3, 4, get on the dance floor

    Make it three individuals and the setting becomes a bit more less intimate, more formal and way more lighter. Of course it can get weird with one feeling left out while the other two bond and the dynamics get a bit odd (literally and figuratively as well). After all, the odd (wo) man out has no option but to listen in and try to fit in!
    But add another person and cross-talks are an option now! Nobody feels left out as you can pick up another conversation with the fourth guy. Now it’s all fun and laughter, good humored banter sprinkled with bitching and whining where all join in with their experiences. No room for sad or serious topics here mind you as all are full of jest.
    Whatever your cup of tea; tango or tri-party or full-blown party; keep sipping as much and as often from all the flavors of life. After all YOLO 😉

  • Great expectations

    We meet, we talk, we expect. We get emotionally attached, we wait for replies, answers and conversations to happen.

    And finally if the other person doesn’t respond, we make our own assumptions. Good, bad, ugly.

    Merry or Morbid

    But life goes on, so stay unhooked. Keep a smile and you can jolly walk your way through this journey of life. Stay light in your heart and keep fluttering everyday. 💕