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Tag: success

  • Who Is Successful?

    The one with all the riches? The one with great health? Or the one with freedom to spend time at their leisure? What was once considered success maybe labelled toxic today. And that which someone aspires maybe what someone else despises!

    Historically success had a very clear, narrow and rigid definition. As you started making a living, expectations were that your earnings double, assets grow commensurately and then an ostentatious display of this wealth would announc to the world that you had arrived!

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    As most of the world reeled under the aftermath of the world wars, famines and other such crisis of humanity; this seemed a clear path to success. You were to make your survival sustainable and lineage last. In a nutshell survival of the fittest, adapted by humans to meet their social expectations. Fair and square.

    Conventional success called for conventional labels. And times have changed. We are no longer plagued by existential crisis. It is (some may say) an easier world to survive in today. Not many an educated graduates have to squander for the basics of Maslow’s hierarchy. But at the same time, basics remain the same for all. Those with a cushion, aspire a higher launch pad and can be choosy about what they want to succeed in. Those with a not so privileged start aim to be atleast ‘there’.

    To those who can, should chase their aspirations. Should choose their passion over convenience. Not saying it would be any easy, rigour is expected when you want to make it long lasting and sustainable. Choose flexibility over rigidness and balance over obsession. To those who can dare, get uncomfortable making tough choices!

  • Progress Over Perfection

    Is it good to toot your own horn? Hell yes! If you got the bragging rights to something that was a first for you, go ahead and publicize it, shamelessly.

    As seasoned professionals, we don’t think twice about advertising our work wins with peers and leaders. So when it comes to personal victories, why do most of us go silent?

    I performed at a socially gathering. Or I learnt a new skill. Or I mended a broken connection. Why don’t we hear such stories often? Maybe because most earning professionals think such ‘domestic’ things are beneath them. Or they think these are insignificant achievements as they are meant to be a given. Since professional accomplishments are the only ones bringing in the monies, only they get the limelight.

    I see myself

    How about building a personal resume, something alike your professional one. It details out your EQ and IQ victories. It summaries the life experiences gathered in handling situations and dealing with people. It captures your learnings out of failures and rarely even revivals. It’s like a journal albeit the details, emphasizing your growth as a human being.

    Not that it can be marketed anywhere you may say, so why put brains behind it. But is there anything more dear than peace and happiness. Sometimes we need to step away from daily grind and look at ourselves as a third person. Your personal curriculum vitae would reassure you of your journey and decisions this far. It can even pave the way forward upon deeper reflection.

    Embrace it & set aside a personal brag hour each week rn.

  • Slaying on ur own terms

    Conventional definitions of success? Orthodox measures of a good life? Relearn. Reset. Rewire.

    Not everything we have learnt is relevant in this ever changing world. As institutions evolve and idealogies advance; people rise up the societal pyramid, discovering newer definitions of making a living. Embrace change or perish holds true so those who adapt truly find bliss and peace – beyond conventional happiness.

    Be the lead. Not the best friend. Make no room for self pity. Make way for thinking out of the box, being unbound by conventional wisdom and abide by your own standards of freedom.

  • Extra baggage

    “Extra baggage welcome, at a cost” says the Airport signpost. & I wonder doesn’t that apply elsewhere too. If you carry extra, you gotta pay elsewhere.

    Carry your past and you pay with guilt. Carry shame and you pay with remorse. Carry a yardstick for success and pay by yearning to live by its standard. Carry what others think of you and you can never be your true self.

    Life’s a mixed bouquet

    Chasing happiness as per other people’s expectations or by peer pressure is like a dog trying to catch his tail. A futile effort leading to little  more than momentary satisfaction.

    Being yourself, holding your stead and being comfortable in your own skin, thoughts and pace of life is a tough, sometimes lonely but fulfilling journey.

  • Hustle culture

    Is it always necessary to be busy? To keep moving, to struggle and to win? It does give us a momentous joy when victory is ours, but then wasn’t the journey also worth enjoying? After all that is where life happens. While it’s important to have an eye on the prize, did we get lost in the daily chase to cherish little joys of life?

    Enjoy the swim

    So say nay to the hustle culture. Hustle but at your own pace, with your own goals and in your own zone. More important is the zeal to live, the motivation to show up and the attitude to take things in stride. Winning or not, you are a champion anyways. So enjoy while you compete and complete the races of life with a smile drawn on your face. 💕