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  • Need for speed

    Speed is the new mantra these days; whether at work or in personal life, the thrill of doing (& dismissing) at a faster pace is desirable.

    There is speed networking to get to greater efficiencies in socializing.  Then there is speed dating as relationships also get fast forwarded unlike millennials who spent years with one person. There also exists speed consuming i.e., watching Netflix at 1.5x as it’s too slow or videos at 2x to shortlist the best suited hack you are looking for.

    Sip, slow.

    I wonder if we have something more to blame than our shortened attention spans. Maybe it’s a supply demand issue, as plentiful is also a vain thing!

  • Emotions are us!

    We blame a lot of stuff on our emotions – they made me eat, get angry and spoil the day etc etc. What if we came to know thay motions aren’t external to us. They are creations of our own brain. Emotions are guesses made by our mind in congruence with our experience and knowledge of the past.

    Manifesting

    With this new bit of information, I am hopeful that I can generate emotions I want. And be aware to not generate the ones I don’t want. Which means feeling sad about broken past is in my hands. And so is turning the table around to see the same situation from a different lens. I can get objective about it, find my rationale to now feel calm that I learned a lesson from the past and I am grateful for it.

    Now that you know it, go own it! & this could be your super power too.

  • Lady love

    Wallowing, pining, longing, craving, desiring, crying for lost love.

    How do you picturize these words? A guy pining for his lady love. Because that’s what you mostly grew up consuming! Most songs, movies, pop culture show the male lead looking to sing for his lady love. Can we females pine, wallow, miss and remember our lost love or is this also a male dominated territory?

    Half of my heart

  • Does parenting have a gender?

    Father, mother.

    Mom, dad.

    Amma, Appa.

    These are all terms referring to a role of a caregiver to their offspring. Then does it matter whether it’s a male or female caregiver who rocks the cradle?

    In fact a balanced, well thought of and meaningful partnership results in a rounded kid as both parents bring their experiences, knowledge and wisdom to the child. Societal norms may shape this but normalising raising one’s offspring is a family and human issue. After all it takes a village to raise a kid.

  • The art of chilling

    Not the freezing that the Earth’s polar cause! And no, most certainly not, am I referring to being lazy, tardy and careless. But staying calm in the eye of a storm, attaining a level of zen and developing an attitude that balances care-concern with discern towards one’s inner peace.

    Putting up your feet

    Do not mistaken it as a sign of weakness, being aimless or suggesting to put up your feet all times. But more like mimicking  a duck, paddling furiously beneath the surface but staying poised to the outside chaos. It can do wonders to minimize the anger and frustration which arises due to friction with other humans – leading to a path of joyous harmony and invaluable health.

  • Maybe be my always

    Home is where the heart is,

    And it’s there, right there amiss,

    So maybe be my always.

    Looking past the roses and the thorns,

    Until the path be strewn and torn,

    So maybe be my always.

    Wild and free, we were, like the sea,

    Like a pod with two peas,

    So maybe be my always.

    Almost here, so near yet so far,

    Finding love where we are,

    So maybe be my always.

    Having adopted the pace of nature,

    Waiting to see what lies in the future,

    So maybe be my always.

    Happiness comes in waves, it would find us again,

    Helping tide over the past, the pain,

    So maybe be my always.

    Always be my maybe

  • Extra baggage

    “Extra baggage welcome, at a cost” says the Airport signpost. & I wonder doesn’t that apply elsewhere too. If you carry extra, you gotta pay elsewhere.

    Carry your past and you pay with guilt. Carry shame and you pay with remorse. Carry a yardstick for success and pay by yearning to live by its standard. Carry what others think of you and you can never be your true self.

    Life’s a mixed bouquet

    Chasing happiness as per other people’s expectations or by peer pressure is like a dog trying to catch his tail. A futile effort leading to little  more than momentary satisfaction.

    Being yourself, holding your stead and being comfortable in your own skin, thoughts and pace of life is a tough, sometimes lonely but fulfilling journey.

  • Hustle culture

    Is it always necessary to be busy? To keep moving, to struggle and to win? It does give us a momentous joy when victory is ours, but then wasn’t the journey also worth enjoying? After all that is where life happens. While it’s important to have an eye on the prize, did we get lost in the daily chase to cherish little joys of life?

    Enjoy the swim

    So say nay to the hustle culture. Hustle but at your own pace, with your own goals and in your own zone. More important is the zeal to live, the motivation to show up and the attitude to take things in stride. Winning or not, you are a champion anyways. So enjoy while you compete and complete the races of life with a smile drawn on your face. 💕

  • Positive parenting

    Is it best to guide your children every step of the way? Make sure they are perfectly dolled up for all spheres of life? Is it a parenting failure if the kid doesn’t excel in either academics, sports or fine arts? How much pressure is too much pressure?

    Or are you a lazy, chilled out parent who let’s the kid be? One who isn’t worried about grades and excellence but rather focused on the learning experience? Isn’t this a cover for your inadequacy to multi-task?

    Leading the way

    All these myriad questions come to every first time parent as the child starts schooling. Till then it’s you and your kid but now it’s a bunch of other kids and their parents too! Comparisions and contrasts are but natural. Making you wonder if your parenting style is too lenient or too strict!

    And there is no golden answer. It’s what fits your family, your circumstances, your equation with your partner and so on. So stay on the course you’ve chosen, just keep your eyes and ears peeled for learning what’s happening in your kid’s world! 😇

  • Cultural Traditions

    Are they society’s guilt traps to hold one back? Are they at times meaningless, irrational & outdated? Are you stuck following them with your head stuck in sand?

    Tradition & rituals without  context and meaning may seem like a headless chicken. Rather than giving you wings, they tie you back from making that flight. Try asking around and the elders are likely to snub you off or not be able to provide an explanation.

    Boon or bane

    So are you trapped for life, being a blind follower? How about trying to unearth the history, the reasoning the logic and then give it your own spin. Choose the relevant ones and take them ahead, tweaking for today’s world Make them memorable, joyous and create bonds for life with your loved ones. In short, traditions could be your present, as long as you learn to enjoy them, your own way 😁