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  • Right or wrong?

    To accept is right but to expect is wrong?

    To mourn is right but to desire is wrong?

    To dream is right but to hope is wrong?

    To love is right but to love again is wrong?

    To loose is right but to gain is wrong?

    To move on is right but to reconnect is wrong?

    To fall apart is right but to bridge the gap is wrong?

    To answer is right but to question is wrong?

    To suffer silently is right but to change is wrong?

    To detach is right but to rekindle is wrong?

    To wait is right but to wait until eternity is definitely wrong!❤️

  • My Rich Life

    Rich could mean fancy food, it could mean a month long vacation each year or just picking up kids from school. Rich life can mean different things to different people. Let no one version be your truth; observe, seek and define your own rich life.

    Basically rich life is your version of freedom. It could be the freedom to climb professional success without guilt. Or the freedom to build a business you always dreamt of. It could be the freedom of choosing slow life and personal peace over conventional success parameters. Sometimes it could just mean the freedom to be mobile, on your own two feet and be in a healthy state of body and mind.

    What you consider luxury could be condemned by another. & you could very well be loathing or despising another’s way of life. It’s only wise to choose your own path, something that is uniquely yours. As per your life goals, current lifestyle and priorities. Chasing a dream life which isn’t your own dream is like living a nightmare of sorts. Cos you would be chasing objectives which deeply don’t mean anything personal to you. Such struggles won’t add value to your life in ways which would be significant or sustainable. The why to choosing a rich life and striving upto it should be uniquely yours.

    Define your own rich. It should be yours and not what you see around you. Or what is conventionally considered being rich or a status symbol. Not owning a house is not a failure. Not having kids is not a failure. Not building a business empire is not a failure. Not climbing corporate ladder is not a failure. Not being a stay at home parent is not a failure. Not having a millionaire partner so that you can go without earning a single day is not a failure.

    Rich is when you have peace. Rich is when you have happiness. Rich is when you are content. Rich is when you are healthy, grateful and blessed for what you have. So go on design your life around the riches you treasure and hold yourself accountable for them.

  • Live rich, die poor

    Most of us are taught to save up for a rainy day. But in reality most of us end up living this saying to the T; to an extent that we even sacrifice our today for this tomorrow. We are so focused on earnings and savings that current comforts take a backseat. Whatever remains afterwards is what’s used to bring form and functionality to current living. This I call as the frugal life. It’s good for a short sprint but not sustainable in the long run.

    On the other hand, some of us are almost always living this philosophy in the reverse manner. So they spend the paycheck the minute it lands and the thought of savings doesn’t cross their mind very often. More often than not, such folks keep very little to no track of their earnings (& thereby spendings). I call this the chill life. Again can run for a short while but definitely not keeping for the long run.

    How if we trained our minds and spending habits to focus on the present comforts? I say comforts, not luxuries cos then sky is the limit. Choose functionality over flashy. Choose practicality over poshness. So what we earn we spend to make daily life comfortable and worth the grind. This way we spend more when we live than save for more when we die. Thereby making the most of the money we earn by spending wisely on today than mindlessly saving for tomorrow!

  • So how were your tourist braids?!

    Ever got a braid, a tattoo or your hair coloured on a whimsical vacation? Or better still a one time encounter with a stranger which lasted only until the trip lasted? That’s exactly what tourist braids are! Fun but risky, on the spur decisions taken when you are away from your daily routine and the usual role you play in life.

    It’s like living in a bubble, with rose tinted glasses on. It’s a heavy cocktail mix of thrill of the unknown and newness of the place all rolled into one. You know it’s shortlived but you want to make the most of it while it lasts without thinking of the detachment pain or the consequences of your impromptu actions. Here you can be just you, without the labels, roles and relationships attached. It’s like living your best life or bachelor days all over again, although briefly.

    And crawling back from this getaway into your routine feels like one big Monday morning blue. It’s that sinking feeling of being forced to work from office after a hiatus. A time travel back into normalcy – daily commute, familial roles and other responsibilities take over. Slowly, steadily the memory, charm and daze of the braids fades away. And all you are left with is your original hairstyle. The one you identify with, the one people identify you with and the one which is your identity!

  • Gone, forever

    End of an era. Death of a relation. Cessation to thrive. Expiration of feelings. Termination of exchanges. Completion of dettachment. Conclusion in unsaid goodbye. Finale of fading memory. Grave of dreams. Gone too soon.

    Thanking the universe for conspiring. Grateful for the moments. Blessed with the memories. Appreciative of the growth. Beholden for the words. Indebted to bring out the best. Obliged to share world. Glad our paths crossed.

    The great fall

    Tears would not flow. Moments won’t be recollected. Words shall not be exchanged. Voices shall be a thing of the past. Harsh but only option. Dead end of sorts. Yearning, longing, everything can be shelved. Immerse in yourself, outwardly busy, inwardly lost.

    A not so happy ending, once again. History repeats, roles reverse. ‘cos what is not meant to be never will be. Closing the paths to heart, the fancies of mind and the longing of soul with a finale. A tribute to finding peace not promises. A mission to let bygones be bygones. An operation to erase what was, hope not and let the memories fade out, once more.

  • Hush Travel

    Move over conventional travel, here comes slow, mindful, self-aware tourism. It’s really not the new kid on the block but rather a return to how travel used to be a few decades ago. Albeit bit more nuanced and deliberate. Coming from and as a trend that weary busy bees want to manifest for themselves as a break from dready time bound work weekdays.

    Since everyday life is laced with a million tasks and multitude of decisions, all one wants is a break from the madness. Moments of silence, tranquility and peace is what is desirable. One wants to wander but with intent and mindfulness. One wants to explore but with purpose. One wants to relax but listen to untold stories, walk the unknown paths and relish hyper-local delicacies in the company of local dwellers.

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    So it increasingly becoming common to choose sky watch over night life, idling over actively alert and alleys and bylanes over algorithmic itineraries. Monuments like monastries which allow to immerse and not just passively see are preferred. Apart from popular cultural tags like dance and music, one wants to pick the local language. Picking up cherishables that are hand crafted and produced in small batches are desired over mass printed t-shirts in all sizes for the entire clan. Smaller towns have such and many more local legacy to explore so what go down the crowded path.

    Slowly but steadily experiences that are personal would be chosen by those that are performative. Once, again and always.

  • Renew your relations

    Monotone, platonic, never-changing, always the same. Sounds boring right? Then why do we expect our relationships to be such. Why do words like change, newness, disruption cause us cold feet?

    Relationships are like living organisms. They are never stable. Whether it’s with your partner, friends, parents or siblings. Each relation is like an organism that has its own wishes, fancies and moods. The equation can undergo change in due course of time. It can change multiple times, with its own highs and lows, in’s and out’s. Stay unpurterbed as the true nature of a relation is to evolve, morph and take the shape of your lifestyle, milestones and other key aspects of life.

    Sometimes just looking at the equation with a critical pair of eyes helps. A fresh Point of View always helps. Something that worked in the past is no longer relevant while something that didn’t work might now be a huge hit. Thus it’s a mistake to write off any relationship and burn bridges completely. Never give up on the partnership you got as it is never a lost cause. The time you invested is always going to get you a return of equity. Infact it’s a wealth of wisdom, memories and shared experiences you have built together. There are pearls of wisdoms ingrained in your subtle memory, today or tomorrow they would make you a better version of you.

    Tomorrow always brings the opportunity to start afresh. Thus tidying over the weather is in everyone’s best interest, especially yours to make the gains both tangible as well as intangible.

  • Life raft

    There are times when all the positive talks, motivational podcasts, self-help books and even in person talks leave you only more unmotivated. It’s like going through a dark phase of life when you loose all hope. All seems lost, everything seems to drain your energy and every interaction is something you want to run away from. In such moments, nothing seems possible and even moving a lomb seems like a herculean task.

    But like every dark cloud has a silver lining, there is light after darkness, day after night and spring after the long winter is gone. When you feel you are in the darkest, dullest and deepest phase of life, be grateful and hang on. Cos it can’t be any worse now, now is going to be only uphill, brighter days and lovelier moments. So hang in tight and keep your head above water until the inflection point arrives.

    Life is cyclical, don’t be harsh!

    So that one moment, one person, one interaction or one line you read or hear somewhere is going to be your life raft. Your ray of hope. Your float jacket which would bring a newness in everyday life. It wouldn’t bring earth shattering change but would make you move more, live more and be more. You would start taking baby steps, quite literally towards using your time better, using your body and brain better. And slowly spring would blossom into full blown summer where you would peak and shine.

    & since impermanance is the name of the game, this also wouldn’t last long. Be ready for the cyclical autumn to set in and take it in your stride now that you now that after winter is a spring!

  • 40 before 40 – Part II

    The fuck it forties – a unique yet apt title by a friend who is almost finished sailing through her fourth decade around the sun. Maybe, maybe not, but anyways may your aging be as exciting as this time bucket list! So I am continuing to jot down the accomplishments that every woman should aim to get under her belt before turning 40.

    Do your bit for the nature. Afterall we got only one planet earth as there is no plan B. So start small by saving electricity, sorting your garbage, switching to sustainable products and practices. Then take some formal steps with like minded folks, the local community and be a sustainability champion whom people follow even IRL.

    Build basic knowledge of your spiritual scriptures. Maybe you are god-fearing, maybe you are not. In either ways, a good thorough read of your religious scriptures might leave you with a deep understanding of philosophy, way of life and a know-how of how to navigate daily life. So whatever be your spiritual awareness level today, consuming bite sized information would only add dimension to your aging!

    Do nothing day. Yes you heard it right, mark it on your calendars and swear by it. Think of it as a day of ‘paid time off’ from your role and titles. If you are a home-maker, do no chores on this day. If you are employed or self-employed, take a day off spend time on a hobby deeply. If you are a new mom, just ditch childcare and pamper yourself by stepping out in your finest outfits!

    Friend date. Because finding a date is hard work but friends are always here for you! So step out with your girlfriend and have a gala time.

    Bike. Or if you are a biker girl, gear up and push the pedal (or the gear). After all who doesn’t like the thrill of breeze in your hair, some sweat on the forehead and a freewheeling ride down the neighbourhood.

    Grow a plant. There is no greater wonder in the world than watching a living being grow. So sow some seeds or invest in a sapling from the friendly nursery and start nurturing the plant. Build it into your daily routine and be proud of keeping it alive & thriving as a responsible adult.

    Hike. Being in nature is a natural endorphin booster. A cheap and free dose of feel good with some cardio and fresh air to top it with.

    DIY. Build something with your own hands, from scratch. It could be as simple as an origami craft, a new recipe or a lovely crochet that you have saved on your pinterest board since long.

    Handywoman. Spend a day with the toolbox and go all around the house fixing all the loose screws & hanging nuts and bolts. As they say a stitch in time saves nine, derive some sense of accomplishment by being the lady version of a ‘handyman’.

    Face yoga. Aging but wanting to age with grace. Then find some good source of face yoga, the basic ones which use muscle pull without using fancy equipments or more investments than what you already have. & thank me later for saving you a million in face lifts and tucks which your dermatologist would have earned instead.

  • Are you patriotic?

    Do you love your nation? Do you feel proud to be a citizen? In short are you patriotic?

    While it’s natural to crib, complain and curse the state of affairs, afterall we all do love our soil, our nation and our country. It’s like a love hate relationship going on. Looking constantly at the shortcomings in order to get better and be better. Isn’t that logical when we love someone? We keep the same attitude towards ourselves, our partner, our kids and any near & dear one who we want to be cheering for. So don’t blame yourself for constantly being annoyed by what your country haas done for you – it shall improve and you truly would be a part of that success story.

    All eyes on the flag!

    So now that we have established that you indeed are a nation-lover, what do you think it means to you? To sing songs, participate as an audience in community programs, wishing folks on celebrated days and maybe even making sure you plan something around such specials days.

    Or is it paying your taxes on time, sorting your garbage, being an active participant in community drives and sharing ‘nationalist knowledge’ in the form of forwards to all your connects.

    Or does it go beyond to do your bit to keep the environment clean, teach your next generations to value our heritage, keep culture like food, dressing, language alive and support local artisans and artisinal endeavours.

    Where ever you are in your journey of country-love, remember what J F Kennedy said, “Ask not what the country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country!”