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  • Navras – the realm of emotions

    Emotions, root emovere. A latin word which means movement. So emotions equal movement, what makes you act. Feelings that make you do what you do.

    And then there are all the labels we use for emotions – positive, negative, catastrophic, euphoric. Its unfair to label our emotions. They are at most  intense, calm, pleasant or unpleasant. It’s what you do basis these emotions which make for a positive or a negative outcome.

    But bear in mind that all emotions are welcome, all behaviours aren’t. It’s like looking at a dashboard – where emotions are the insights. They are signals waiting to be interpreted and not problems waiting to be solved.

    Feelings come and go like waves in the ocean. They say time and tide wait for none. And emotions, well,  they knock on our doors every moment we are alive.

    So don’t be ashamed of what you feel. Stay unabashedly true to what you feel. But make sure what you do after reflects your journey as an individual.

  • Emotional intelligence

    Does that title even make sense? It’s like two opposite words put together. We would like to think we humans are rational logical thinking animals; but pause and think, doesn’t everything start with a tiny seed called emotion?

    Emotional intelligence is something we all are wired with. Some are highly sensitive to it while others not as much. Thus emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand emotions. Firstly your own and then those of others. Using this level of awareness to manage behavior and outcomes makes navigating life easier.

    Self awareness ie , motivation, regulation for self. Others Empathy and social skills with others

    As a first step it may just help to identify what triggers this emotion in me? Is it an event, a situation or a person? Is there a pattern or common identifier which I can then start pre-empting.

    The second essential question to know is what emotions do I feel? Am I able to give it the right title or I tend to label everything as stress.

    Pause. Reflect. Act.

  • Just keep the love

    Love struck or love lost, whatever your state of mind,

    Remember you own it, it’s you first so be kinder of kind.

    You do you but do me a favour, just keep the love.

    Like a kid, always riding high with zeal & joy,

    Not to be bogged down by a lost toy.

    You do you but do me a favour, just keep the love.

    Some would walk in, some would walk out,

    But life shall go on, have zero doubt.

    You do you but do me a favour, just keep the love.

    After all it begins and ends with you, yourself,

    Thereby highs or lows, be the best version of yourself.

    You do you but do me a favour, just keep the love.

  • Vacation-land

    Dreamy, idle, stress free. A world of dreams and fantasy. Where you are not bound by your daily routine, 9-5 day job, household chores and adult responsibilities. In short vacations, short or long, exotic or mundane transport you to a La la land.

    The place where you can be ‘not you’. The place where you can be ‘what you wish to be when free from worldly ties’. The place where you can visualise, talk, behave and live the life of your dreams. Where you can unburden yourself and live the fantasy life you desire.

    As all dreams come to a beautiful end, so does the vacation. Cut to reality, back to the daily grind, your land of work and living; filled with the daily calendar and numerous commitments of an adult life. Good morning 🌞

  • Ebb and flow

    Disappointed by the way your interaction with friend/colleague/neighbour/partner turned out? Feeling sore? Wondering if you did something wrong or they didn’t get you?

    We have all been there, done that, haven’t we. Spent hours of time and loads of energy analyzing (sometimes over analyzing). What went wrong, what could you have done differently, what can you still do to salvage the situation?

    Cut to the chase, we can view each action as a wave in the ocean. These actions come and go in our life, hitting us differently each time. Just like no two waves are similar, your and the other person’s actions during an interaction may not be similar. Or of the same intensity or even complementary to each other. You may be riding a high, and them a low. Or vice versa. Just bearing in mind that these waves are not permanent and lasting, makes us more accepting and less anxious as an individual.

    After all each of us are on our unique journeys, some ahead, some behind. Some nearing one milestone of life and others at another crossroad. The best part is that we are all beings of the same ocean, shall meet here and there. One day, some day.

  • The day I lost…

    Heartbroken. That’s how I felt as tears rolled down my cheeks. That pain I felt in my heart, as if my heart sank into a bottomless pit pulling me in endless darkness.

    When I realized something was amiss, it was almost quite late. Still I paced up, ran and almost sprinted to get a glance.

    I don’t even have a picture. Plenty of the both of us, but always in company of many more faces. Nevertheless the memories remain, etched in the mind, the subconscious and the conscious.

    Saw the world through you. Quite literally 🕶️

  • Intentional Living

    Is that the opposite of mindful living? Where one stops to smell the roses and stays aware of the here and now.

    Or is being intentional a complementary way of being aware of the deeper meaning of what you do. Trying to attach purpose to what one does and how one does it. Be it planning a family day out or a day date with your partner. To give your actions an objective, is like giving a soul to the sculpture. It’s like giving personality to the creative. 

    And it doesn’t have to be an overthinking exercise, just one word out of a few options. Why do you wanna buy that thing in your cart – is it serving a long desired purpose or another way to deal with a failure? Why are you reaching out for that piece of cookie – did you earn it for your cheat day or just to deal with your emotions?

    Try being intentional everyday and soon you’ll be flexing this muscle even in nurturing your relationships. And that could be such a game changer to turn talks into conversations and turn dates into connections. After all to live without intent is to just survive!

  • Wonder wall

    They said something gross, you got angry. They didn’t speak up, you got angry  They did something, you got angry. They did nothing, you got angry. There’s a pattern you see, it seems it isn’t them but you after all.

    Whether they do or don’t, say or not, you expect more and you get attached to the outcome. You center it upon yourself and equate it to your worth. And that my friend makes you angry.

    The action, the words, the behaviour is there’s to decide. Your reaction to it is solely your realm. Preserve it, guard your happiness, maintain your equilibrium and protect your inner peace. Shamelessly. Because only you can shelter it, nurture it and derive strength from it.

    Don’t wait for a prince or princess charming to rescue you, be your own protector. Be your wonder wall.

  • Being human

    To be human is to ‘be’ and not to be ‘done’. So there may never be a perfect you, because you would always be a ‘work in progress’.

    And that’s great news! As everyday you are a 0.01% better than yesterday and that my friend is nothing but progress. That is to ‘be’. And that is the greatest gift as you are alive and kicking.

    But aren’t we supposed to be perfect – the best spouse, parent, sibling, child, friend that ever walked on the earth. Yes you are but sadly being the complex human ‘being’ that you are it would take many a lifetimes to be there. So you do you and you be you. Here and now, rather than waiting to be the elusive epitome of perfectionism. It’s a mirage so rather live for today than worry for tomorrow.

  • The right time

    Is there ever a right time? Or rather can the timing ever be wrong? To action, to grow, to be yourself? To move out of the comfort zone, to feel the pain, to have those difficult conversations? To hustle, to sweat, to ache?

    Or is now the best time? Or is today the best day? Or here is the best place to be?