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  • Work : Boon or Bane

    The West sometimes treats work like a punishment. Do your tasks and get out of the work mode faster than you can imagine. The concept of earning faster, living frugal and retiring early have been a rage for quite some time now.

    But wonder what one would do if one doesn’t ‘work’? Imagine a life where you have no purpose of formal work to drive you. What would you do with the 8-9 hours at hand daily? Well you could spend an hour or two on your physical well being, another hour on your spiritual or mental well being. A couple of hours daily on household chores, which still leaves one with half a ‘work’ day and no more hobbies to pursue or quality time to spend with near dear ones.

    Work need not be worship. There could be an 8 hour work day or a 4 hour work day – and sometimes even a zero hour work day. But treating work sacred can give life a vision for the future, a sense of being useful to humankind and a source of real human connections in this fleeting world. Thereby I say, all play and no work would make Jane a dull girl too.

  • Sports maketh a man

    They say all work and no playing makes Jack a dull boy. Indeed apart from the exercise it imparts to the body, it shapes the mind profoundly too.

    The virtues of discipline, focus and fairness are foundational to sports. Whether played as an individual player or a team, one way or the other, sports do shape one’s character.

    Some play to win, while others play to learn. Take your pick and make at least one game your way of life. Adds lightness to your stride and years to your life.

  • Pressure free Parenting

    Catchy title but does that even exist? Not the word of course but the ideology. In today’s hyper competitive world with global aspirations and shrinking humanity can the beta generation even afford to be free from pressure?

    Maybe yes. If they are bought up minus the burden of their parents aspirations. Maybe yes if they are free from the traditional norms society has set to define success, achievements and accomplishments. Maybe yes if they find their own definition of work and play.

    Maybe yes if they create more than consume. Maybe yes if they free play more than attending scheduled classes. Maybe yes if we mentor them more than we coach them. Maybe yes if we let them be the kids they are meant to be ❤️

  • Discipline or Motivation

    Classic chicken and egg case – what comes first motivation or discipline. If you have been procrastinating, you would say motivation as it’s been evading you for a while.

    While if you have been inconsistently awaiting results, you would say discipline as it might hold the key to your success.

    Either way is good, as long as it gets you out of inaction and inches you to get going at your goals. Remember it’s not either or. As discipline minus motivation shall only lead to boredom. And motivation minus discipline would add to your pile of unfinished goals. A healthy dose of both is ideal!

  • In search of greener pastures

    Miss your home, your land? I do. I often dream of being able to pack up and move, take my home and set up my nest back in the hills of Himalayas.

    I didn’t grow up there but still have a strong umbilical tie to my native. A place one grows up in or has ancestral ties to – anything can be that home, that land, the one with which we relate, we feel belonged, we long to keep going back to.

    As often we don’t miss something until we don’t have it anymore. This longing is when you are removed or away for reasons – one or many. Some move for making a living, others for better growth opportunities. Some move for peace and prosperity, others for the glamour of the unknown.

    Wherever you go, take a piece of your roots alongside – the food, the music, the language, the rituals, the outfits – after all these elements make up your culture. Merging the old with the new, preserving what’s relevant and adopting to what’s more suited. This way the grass would continue to look green if you keep watering it, my friend.

  • The gift of Present

    The past lures, remorse of what could have been and how,

    The future captivates, with dreams unfulfilled as of now.

    Dwelling in the past or imagining the future – easy, fulfilling yet an unfruitful way to make time kill.

    Shake yourself up & level up in the present; it’s here, it’s now, it’s real and it’s yours to go ahead and build.

  • Chemistry or Compatibility : Why did you marry your spouse?

    You fell head over heels for someone, cupid struck you with love at first sight? Or did you follow a dating algorithm and sieve through a list of potential suitors?

    If the former, it is likely that underlying chemistry played a bigger role in turning the courtship into lifelong commitment. After all, love is a game played by the hearts and not the minds ☺️

    If the later, it is likely that underlying compatibility played a larger part in formalizing the courtship. You may have consciously (or on a subconscious) level analysed how they fit into your life goals – personal and professional.

    Either way, your work towards your marriage is cut out ‘cos both these ingredients are rightfully required for a successful partnership. If your chemistry is awesome, work on being more compatible and the other way around holds true too. After all, we may fall in love with our soul but to stay in love needs both mind as well as soul.

  • Pains of aging

    Sometime we can unknowingly invite troubles by asking for help. Especially help from aging parents, who are at times erratic and not consistent in their responses. Logic and rationale seems to surpass them many a times, making us wonder if they are the same adults who brought us up.

    They grow selfish, trying to guard themselves even while helping their own children. In the middle of all this, they unknowingly throw you – the (grown up) child, under the bus. I am sure no parent, however old, would do it on purpose. But its most likely an outcome of a battle in their mind. On one hand they think ‘I have done enough for my child’ and on other hand they tell themselves ‘I should now look for myself’.

    Not much to do here for the (grown up) child. Except for taking the path of self reliance, keeping expectations superbly low and undercutting on your asks from them. It’s physics after all, less strain equals better longevity!

  • The new normal

    They say time and tide wait for none, and so shouldn’t I,

    But then it’s been ages, been a while,

    That I felt elated, felt life on a note this high,

    Feeling the emotional tank overflow, sigh!

    Content, comfortable and smiling in my world,

    In the new relations and rituals I was curled.

    Blissfully unaware of what I had lost on the way,

    Or maybe aware but keeping it all tucked away.

    Don’t go that path; cautioned my mind,

    Keeping turning away, an eye blind.

    This new you has all the strength,

    Go embrace it and tread the length.

    Said my heart and good Lord I did hear it,

    Not going to be easy so take it a bit by bit.

    Easy it wasn’t, flowers and thorns alike,

    I like the journey, as much as I now dislike.

    Clear judgement of what’s right and wrong,

    We are in the rightful places where we belong.

    So lighten up, smile and keep it sort of formal,

    After all this is going to be the new normal!

  • Yellow 💛

    In sickness we all cherish health,

    But then were we not busy chasing wealth!

    In loneliness we look for companionship,

    Longing for relations we couldn’t help but nip.

    In darkness all we need are ray of hopes,

    To stop behaving like a bunch of mopes.

    So to sadness, illness and despair we say,

    Not today my friend, not today ❤️