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  • Ebb and flow

    Disappointed by the way your interaction with friend/colleague/neighbour/partner turned out? Feeling sore? Wondering if you did something wrong or they didn’t get you?

    We have all been there, done that, haven’t we. Spent hours of time and loads of energy analyzing (sometimes over analyzing). What went wrong, what could you have done differently, what can you still do to salvage the situation?

    Cut to the chase, we can view each action as a wave in the ocean. These actions come and go in our life, hitting us differently each time. Just like no two waves are similar, your and the other person’s actions during an interaction may not be similar. Or of the same intensity or even complementary to each other. You may be riding a high, and them a low. Or vice versa. Just bearing in mind that these waves are not permanent and lasting, makes us more accepting and less anxious as an individual.

    After all each of us are on our unique journeys, some ahead, some behind. Some nearing one milestone of life and others at another crossroad. The best part is that we are all beings of the same ocean, shall meet here and there. One day, some day.

  • The day I lost…

    Heartbroken. That’s how I felt as tears rolled down my cheeks. That pain I felt in my heart, as if my heart sank into a bottomless pit pulling me in endless darkness.

    When I realized something was amiss, it was almost quite late. Still I paced up, ran and almost sprinted to get a glance.

    I don’t even have a picture. Plenty of the both of us, but always in company of many more faces. Nevertheless the memories remain, etched in the mind, the subconscious and the conscious.

    Saw the world through you. Quite literally 🕶️

  • Intentional Living

    Is that the opposite of mindful living? Where one stops to smell the roses and stays aware of the here and now.

    Or is being intentional a complementary way of being aware of the deeper meaning of what you do. Trying to attach purpose to what one does and how one does it. Be it planning a family day out or a day date with your partner. To give your actions an objective, is like giving a soul to the sculpture. It’s like giving personality to the creative. 

    And it doesn’t have to be an overthinking exercise, just one word out of a few options. Why do you wanna buy that thing in your cart – is it serving a long desired purpose or another way to deal with a failure? Why are you reaching out for that piece of cookie – did you earn it for your cheat day or just to deal with your emotions?

    Try being intentional everyday and soon you’ll be flexing this muscle even in nurturing your relationships. And that could be such a game changer to turn talks into conversations and turn dates into connections. After all to live without intent is to just survive!

  • Wonder wall

    They said something gross, you got angry. They didn’t speak up, you got angry  They did something, you got angry. They did nothing, you got angry. There’s a pattern you see, it seems it isn’t them but you after all.

    Whether they do or don’t, say or not, you expect more and you get attached to the outcome. You center it upon yourself and equate it to your worth. And that my friend makes you angry.

    The action, the words, the behaviour is there’s to decide. Your reaction to it is solely your realm. Preserve it, guard your happiness, maintain your equilibrium and protect your inner peace. Shamelessly. Because only you can shelter it, nurture it and derive strength from it.

    Don’t wait for a prince or princess charming to rescue you, be your own protector. Be your wonder wall.

  • Being human

    To be human is to ‘be’ and not to be ‘done’. So there may never be a perfect you, because you would always be a ‘work in progress’.

    And that’s great news! As everyday you are a 0.01% better than yesterday and that my friend is nothing but progress. That is to ‘be’. And that is the greatest gift as you are alive and kicking.

    But aren’t we supposed to be perfect – the best spouse, parent, sibling, child, friend that ever walked on the earth. Yes you are but sadly being the complex human ‘being’ that you are it would take many a lifetimes to be there. So you do you and you be you. Here and now, rather than waiting to be the elusive epitome of perfectionism. It’s a mirage so rather live for today than worry for tomorrow.

  • The right time

    Is there ever a right time? Or rather can the timing ever be wrong? To action, to grow, to be yourself? To move out of the comfort zone, to feel the pain, to have those difficult conversations? To hustle, to sweat, to ache?

    Or is now the best time? Or is today the best day? Or here is the best place to be?

  • Work : Boon or Bane

    The West sometimes treats work like a punishment. Do your tasks and get out of the work mode faster than you can imagine. The concept of earning faster, living frugal and retiring early have been a rage for quite some time now.

    But wonder what one would do if one doesn’t ‘work’? Imagine a life where you have no purpose of formal work to drive you. What would you do with the 8-9 hours at hand daily? Well you could spend an hour or two on your physical well being, another hour on your spiritual or mental well being. A couple of hours daily on household chores, which still leaves one with half a ‘work’ day and no more hobbies to pursue or quality time to spend with near dear ones.

    Work need not be worship. There could be an 8 hour work day or a 4 hour work day – and sometimes even a zero hour work day. But treating work sacred can give life a vision for the future, a sense of being useful to humankind and a source of real human connections in this fleeting world. Thereby I say, all play and no work would make Jane a dull girl too.

  • Sports maketh a man

    They say all work and no playing makes Jack a dull boy. Indeed apart from the exercise it imparts to the body, it shapes the mind profoundly too.

    The virtues of discipline, focus and fairness are foundational to sports. Whether played as an individual player or a team, one way or the other, sports do shape one’s character.

    Some play to win, while others play to learn. Take your pick and make at least one game your way of life. Adds lightness to your stride and years to your life.

  • Pressure free Parenting

    Catchy title but does that even exist? Not the word of course but the ideology. In today’s hyper competitive world with global aspirations and shrinking humanity can the beta generation even afford to be free from pressure?

    Maybe yes. If they are bought up minus the burden of their parents aspirations. Maybe yes if they are free from the traditional norms society has set to define success, achievements and accomplishments. Maybe yes if they find their own definition of work and play.

    Maybe yes if they create more than consume. Maybe yes if they free play more than attending scheduled classes. Maybe yes if we mentor them more than we coach them. Maybe yes if we let them be the kids they are meant to be ❤️

  • Discipline or Motivation

    Classic chicken and egg case – what comes first motivation or discipline. If you have been procrastinating, you would say motivation as it’s been evading you for a while.

    While if you have been inconsistently awaiting results, you would say discipline as it might hold the key to your success.

    Either way is good, as long as it gets you out of inaction and inches you to get going at your goals. Remember it’s not either or. As discipline minus motivation shall only lead to boredom. And motivation minus discipline would add to your pile of unfinished goals. A healthy dose of both is ideal!