Give it time. Let it be organic. Add some space sprinkle some humour and throw in some talks. While socialization is immediate and wider in reach, making friendships last is precise yet organic.
It requires overlooking that random comment, a weird conversation once in a while and some abrupt time-outs. Learning to let go yet tredding difficult conversations – it is a tightwalk indeed. Yet rewarding as you find your humans, your tribe. One friend at a time.
Adulting can be tough. Brutal. Almost like a mortal combat with oneself. Both in the mind and body. And yet it’s exponential growth, by leaps and bounds.
To pick up life essential skills like cooking, managing a household and keeping a living being alive is no means feat. On surface it’s burnt fingers, uncooked food and messy room.
But underneath is victory, raw and fulfilling. Just like mending your own garden to find the flowers blooming. Right back at you.
But to stay is tough. To endure is courageous. To remain committed is brave.
Because there is no newness, there is little room for surprise and there isn’t an element of thrill that might be unexplored. Unlike the early days where everything is rosy, real life is a riot of all hues. Some vivid, others sombre and a few downright nasty.
Best to keep your rosy glasses on for optimal experience – as they say happiness is me!
In today’s era, we often rush to draw conclusions, haste to put labels and are quick (sometimes lightning quick) to make go/no go decisions.
What if we made more room for errors, laughed on the silly bits and listened without judgements. Accepting the imperfections of people around us and unfocusing on the fixes we wish for them.
Unbridled, this is when we start bonding without expectations and yet keep the elbow room for erring. I am, if I start separating the dude from the deed, indeed.
“So how much did you loose?” An innocent question from a curious workout buddy. & a seemingly straight forward answer is what she was hoping for. But I had to shatter her thoughts mid-way. I learnt early on to not chase losses but rather was more focused on gaining! I am here to gain : build strength, improve energy levels and increase stamina – this was me on day one of consulting the certified coach.
And like they say, find a guru you can follow and look no further. So here I am; 10 months later, stronger in my stride, lighter in my body and calmer in my mind. & the gains are far more than what I set out for – a coach who cheers, friends who are now my safe space and confidence to be a better “me”. Now amidst all those gains, why care to measure a few pounds lost!
Did you know humans are only 54% accurate at detecting lies? That means on a given day, you may only half guess what’s being told to be true and believe it too.
Now there is blatant lies and subtle lies. Half the media you consume is subtle lies cos it’s untrue but yet can’t be proven to be false largely. It is the author’s interpretation of a situation given her biases, limitations and emotions.
Blatant lies is the easier variant – both to pull off and to guess. Because it either is a masterpiece or a shabby work of art. It’s like giving everyone a version of the story what they would like to hear. Where nothing is false but nothing is true either.
A spin on the globally-aware locally-blissful gen alpha of the growing virtual world. With shrinking boundaries and democracy of information this could well be someone from a small town or village and not necessarily a city person.
So the boomer’s cosmopolitan is now gen alpha’s Glocal – global yet local citizen of the earth. These Glocals blend in everywhere, they feel at home anywhere. They have a universal view but regional appeal both at the same time.
But does one really unlearn to develop new tastes (quite literally). Or does he stay true to his roots yet embrace the socio-cultural learnings. It’s like choosing to trade the past for the future – what do you choose?
Remote working supports meaningful starts to the day, not in a random rush. One where hurriedness doesn’t drive things, purpose does. This can lead to comprehensive well rounded days which develop organically and not forcefully. With spare time at hand, community participation gets boosted.
As long as a routine is built – one with purpose, intention and holistic view of personal and professional growth; remote working can help flourish. Growth comes by focus and connection which are basically energy directed in the right way. Isolation is the poison not remote work.
My 7 year old questioned why a certain footballer has thick dark black hair – explained how human bodies adapted to where their ancestors settled. Explainging pangea to evolution to the kid was quite a feat for my mind. & I felt I had nailed the day.
But curious kid had more questions for me. Now he wanted to understand why his teen cousin keeps giggling and not indulge in usual conversation or games. He is autistic hence communication is not a well developed skill but is able bodied enough to cycle and swim. But my kid wasn’t convinced that his brain is wired differently as he couldn’t apparently see any factors contributing to it. Now that’s the challenge with neurodiversity, it’s invisible and it’s causal factors are difficult to pin-point. If kids can’t wrap their heads around it, neither would adults. We have a long way to go as humankind in making this diversity a mainstream agenda for greater equity.
In the movie Holiday, two not-so-young independent working women swap homes for a week and experience each other’s life across the Atlantic.
Sometimes all we need are experiences like this which we can experience by all our senses. To value what we got, reinforce what tests us and reconcile with the choices we made.
Now that was movie so the protagonists walk into the love of their lives and all ends well. Fast forward to reality, not necessarily every such experience would be as rosy. But if we could imbibe even one percent from every such interaction, we could very well enrich our own life by the many lives!
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