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Tag: separation

  • Concious uncoupling

    When silence takes center stage. When there is comfort in avoidance. When it is best to fall out of touch than stay in touch. Both sides let time and tide wash it away. Quiet. Concious. Disconnected.

    A term made fashionable by the Hollywood actor Gywneth Platrow – silent divorce describes the above situation accurately. There is quiet quitting, and act of growing apart, slowly albeit steadily. A noiseless separation that isn’t conjectured in a day but has been in the making since years, decades perhaps. Partners falll out of love, liking and eventually co-existence. No drama, no pressure just pack up and move on.

    It’s rampant these days, not just amongst married couples but even other relationships. Friendships are more often than not ending this way. Falling in and out of love and companionship is the reason here too. You grow ‘bored’ of a bestie and latch onto another, more often than not only to move onto another. Often the courtesies are exchanged and being ‘in the radar’ is no more considered insulting even if you were 3am friends at one time. Even in families you see siblings no more emotionally connected to the umbilical cord or to each other. They live together or apart, function in harmony when required but act in complete autonomy and isolation of each other (or even the parents at times)!

    It can be termed emotional conservation – where you want to save your feelings and not spend them unnecessarily by ‘sweating on the small stuff’. This also saves one from the societal pressure of living with one’s partner or family. Thus saved from the stigma, everyone can live and let live. Carrying on with the parallel lives, non aligned but cooperative where need be!

  • Marriage : From Label to Libel

    Its a dying institute many say in today’s information era. Same was said for the institution of family in the industrial era. Without making a case for either, it would be interesting to explore how it’s evolving in the new-age society.

    To most it starts as a societal label which formalizes your relationship. Establishing credibility for your adulthood. Being a passport to freedom, to decision making (& owning them too).

    To a few its a libel, even if it’s a sour sanguine relationship, they want to live it up till death do us apart. Just to live upto the label, they are putting up with the discomfort of a libel.

    Leaving aside the peer pressure (which is manifold in the digital era), what matters is what matters most in life, to you. Label or libel, if it’s dear then put your might behind it. If not, then the world is your home, be a free bird. Irrespective of what you choose, remember public memory is always effervescent.

  • Bittersweet

    It’s that feeling of tingle which fills your heart with sadness and at the same time sprinkles joy amidst the darkness. It’s similar to a dark moonlit night where there is the cover of darkness in the night but the subtle moonlight lingers on giving you hope and perspective.

    It’s the feeling when you have been waiting for something to happen but also half wish that it would happen later than sooner. Like losing a loved one to a long fought terminal illness, fallout with a beloved friend which is irrevocable or the empty nest which you want to stay filled with the conversations and laughter of your children.