Concious uncoupling

When silence takes center stage. When there is comfort in avoidance. When it is best to fall out of touch than stay in touch. Both sides let time and tide wash it away. Quiet. Concious. Disconnected.

A term made fashionable by the Hollywood actor Gywneth Platrow – silent divorce describes the above situation accurately. There is quiet quitting, and act of growing apart, slowly albeit steadily. A noiseless separation that isn’t conjectured in a day but has been in the making since years, decades perhaps. Partners falll out of love, liking and eventually co-existence. No drama, no pressure just pack up and move on.

It’s rampant these days, not just amongst married couples but even other relationships. Friendships are more often than not ending this way. Falling in and out of love and companionship is the reason here too. You grow ‘bored’ of a bestie and latch onto another, more often than not only to move onto another. Often the courtesies are exchanged and being ‘in the radar’ is no more considered insulting even if you were 3am friends at one time. Even in families you see siblings no more emotionally connected to the umbilical cord or to each other. They live together or apart, function in harmony when required but act in complete autonomy and isolation of each other (or even the parents at times)!

It can be termed emotional conservation – where you want to save your feelings and not spend them unnecessarily by ‘sweating on the small stuff’. This also saves one from the societal pressure of living with one’s partner or family. Thus saved from the stigma, everyone can live and let live. Carrying on with the parallel lives, non aligned but cooperative where need be!