Nidhis.daily.blog

Category: self growth

  • Emotions Can Heal

    We take great care of our physical body. A tiny scratch or a minute discomfort is enough to make us acutely aware of tending to it. Then what about the subtle body which goes through a multitude of emotions?

    Emotional healing is a powerful experience. It is unnerving so not for the faint hearted to attempt. It requires you to be vulnerable to your core. You have to unearth your deepest, darkest memories and lay them bare in the open. It is a journey to be undertaken raw and with your bare self.

    Screen yourselves

    Layer by layer, you peel off the many lives you lived. Untying the bonds, untangling the connections. The framework is loosely to first be aware, then acknowledge and lastly accept. It guides you to let go – of past, present as well as future. It reinforces gently that a lot is beyond your control, only your permanent residence i.e., your physical body is your locus of control. It rises your consciousness to stay mindful of now and unlearn the stories you told yourself.

    As your wounds close, new emotions sew the gaps. Let not these emotions fool you, as they too are fleeting. Only your soul is permanent, it is your only truth.

  • Stepping out !

    As we grow up, we learn a lot. And also unlearn a lot. Ever desired if we could retain it all and still grow?

    A baby is born fearless. As she grows into a kid, exploring her immediate surroundings, she starts to learn her boundaries. She is told to run only this fast, laugh only this loud and think only this bold.

    Less is more

    While we should be aware of our boundaries, it is worth exploring the edges once in a while. There is a fine line between being timid and taking calculated risks. And it’s a boost to the self esteem when that overstep teaches us something, invaluable, irreplaceable by anything in our comfort zone.

    Relearning or unlearning is of value as jt adds to your personality, your charisma and your character. A new perspective in one domain of life oftens breathes fresh air into other aspects of life as well. How about taking stock of not just our growth but also of what shed. Sometimes that is what brings immense value as it sheds the unnecessary and lean is always in.

    Imagine being able to retain the childlike curiosity, the innocence, the forgiving nature, the carefree laughs, the deep breathing and much more even as we grow, learn and develop.

  • Something else on the mind!

    Work or Home? Socialize or Solitude? Comfort of homeland or adventure of overseas?

    (Wo)man’s quest for that something else just never stops. It makes us think, think some more and overthink. For some of us, we even act on this thinking and do things unplanned, uprooting and maybe even unthinkable of under normal circumstances.

    When everything seems nice and fine, we inadvertently rock the boat. Sometimes to prove to ourselves that too much comfort isn’t good. And on other occassions in reaction to our circumstances. Either ways, stepping out of comfort paves way to growth, organic or inorganic. Pushes us to do more, be more and be our better selves. That self which may then look back and laugh at the pool soul of the past who was feeling overwhelmed just sometime back. Such is the power of human adaptability.

    So fortunately or unfortunately, that’s what sets the human race apart from the other species on planet earth. Our constant zeal, unending striving, ever evolving list of desires is what keeps us going, re-discovering ourselves and even re-inventing our lives. As they say if all’s going well, is it even going somewhere?!

  • I quit!

    Do you know when to fold? How do you determine if this is the tipping point when you should call it quits?

    There are highs and then there are lows. Life is constantly swinging something at us. You have the upending ups and then the decimating downs. Sometimes a win looks like a peak summit and a ditch looks like a bottomless pit. Neither are true. It is what you feel and experience. Your thoughts are your ultimate reality and they determine your perception.

    Lit

    Literary experts, political nemesis, brilliant actors and even breakthrough scientists have a lull period. Do all of them get miserable? Yes. Do all of them call quits? No. They hibernate, chip away at something else, chill it out and basically let their minds reset before restarting the toil and hard work.

    So let’s learn to be humane & swim with the tides. Don’t give up too soon. Stay at it, for the art, for the love and for the expression. Remember, always, the art is first for the artist, then for the rest of the world.

  • Eureka!

    That moment of awakening, clarity and absoluteness. When you see the path with accuracy and exactness. No doubts, no if’s and definitely no but’s. Pure vision of your choices, conclusions and consequences. No more hallucinations, assumptions and scenarios in your head, thereby no more fog.

    Mightier than sword

    And then realisation dawns. You run back the stories you told yourself, the narrative that ran in your head and the various situations that played out in your imagination. Some wild, some weird; some annoying, some downright humorous. Spent quite some bright and productive hours overthinking, agonising, painting a picture in your head. All of this drama only to wake up to the facts one day, some day.

    So rather than being a prisoner of your own thoughts, better spend that time making hay as the sun shines. If only we can live each day, every day like this, it would be a Eureka moment daily!

  • Protect Your Energy

    Ever found yourself sucked into problems not your own, plans driven by others, subscriptions you never wanted to land at your doorstep? Happens to all of us, even the ones who gaurd their boundaries superbly well. Step back, review and plan. Is your time at your disposal? Are you letting people and their voices creep into your mindspace? Are the interactions fuelling you with energy or gnawing away your productive time?

    Guarding yourself, first.

    Reviewed – well done. What next, cut the umbilical cord? Yes but only in fantasy world because the real world is small village and you’ll soon be left alone if you keep closing doors on people.

    Maintain a soft exterior. Smile more often. Make eye contact on jokes. Connect in more generic ways. Appear welcoming and warm. Turn your kindness into your strength. Stay polite but firm on your ground when it comes to saying yes.

    Remain tough on the inside. Keep your emotional resilience high. Let your quiet confidence boost your self esteem. Keep your inner circle selective. Stay emotionally available to those who truly deserve.

    In short don’t burn bridges but don’t let the flames leave holes on your inner peace as well.

  • Traveller for life

    Be a traveller. Not a tourist. Traveller keeps an attitude to learn, to soak, to absorb and to assimilate. While a tourist is looking at the same experiences from a superficial lens, a traveller goes deeper and imbibes from one’s travels.

    And not just from one or two travels. Being a traveller means to pick from everyone, everywhere, everyplace. From every experience, good or bad, small or big. Afterall nothing is permanent except what you gain out of it and what you become. What becomes part of you stays with you while all else is temporary. We pass through our travels in life like a traveller in a bullet train; zooming past people, events, landscapes.

    A traveller yearns to soak in traditions, rituals, food from his travels. Even life lessons, friendships, situations and one’s own reactions. It’s a state of constant learning by being humble, aware and reciprocative.

    A traveller builds resilience, feeds curiosity and develops oneself in ways unknown. It could be self discovery or exploration to be more, do more. Basically being a traveller lets you live many lives within one life!

  • My Rich Life

    Rich could mean fancy food, it could mean a month long vacation each year or just picking up kids from school. Rich life can mean different things to different people. Let no one version be your truth; observe, seek and define your own rich life.

    Basically rich life is your version of freedom. It could be the freedom to climb professional success without guilt. Or the freedom to build a business you always dreamt of. It could be the freedom of choosing slow life and personal peace over conventional success parameters. Sometimes it could just mean the freedom to be mobile, on your own two feet and be in a healthy state of body and mind.

    What you consider luxury could be condemned by another. & you could very well be loathing or despising another’s way of life. It’s only wise to choose your own path, something that is uniquely yours. As per your life goals, current lifestyle and priorities. Chasing a dream life which isn’t your own dream is like living a nightmare of sorts. Cos you would be chasing objectives which deeply don’t mean anything personal to you. Such struggles won’t add value to your life in ways which would be significant or sustainable. The why to choosing a rich life and striving upto it should be uniquely yours.

    Define your own rich. It should be yours and not what you see around you. Or what is conventionally considered being rich or a status symbol. Not owning a house is not a failure. Not having kids is not a failure. Not building a business empire is not a failure. Not climbing corporate ladder is not a failure. Not being a stay at home parent is not a failure. Not having a millionaire partner so that you can go without earning a single day is not a failure.

    Rich is when you have peace. Rich is when you have happiness. Rich is when you are content. Rich is when you are healthy, grateful and blessed for what you have. So go on design your life around the riches you treasure and hold yourself accountable for them.

  • Live rich, die poor

    Most of us are taught to save up for a rainy day. But in reality most of us end up living this saying to the T; to an extent that we even sacrifice our today for this tomorrow. We are so focused on earnings and savings that current comforts take a backseat. Whatever remains afterwards is what’s used to bring form and functionality to current living. This I call as the frugal life. It’s good for a short sprint but not sustainable in the long run.

    On the other hand, some of us are almost always living this philosophy in the reverse manner. So they spend the paycheck the minute it lands and the thought of savings doesn’t cross their mind very often. More often than not, such folks keep very little to no track of their earnings (& thereby spendings). I call this the chill life. Again can run for a short while but definitely not keeping for the long run.

    How if we trained our minds and spending habits to focus on the present comforts? I say comforts, not luxuries cos then sky is the limit. Choose functionality over flashy. Choose practicality over poshness. So what we earn we spend to make daily life comfortable and worth the grind. This way we spend more when we live than save for more when we die. Thereby making the most of the money we earn by spending wisely on today than mindlessly saving for tomorrow!

  • So how were your tourist braids?!

    Ever got a braid, a tattoo or your hair coloured on a whimsical vacation? Or better still a one time encounter with a stranger which lasted only until the trip lasted? That’s exactly what tourist braids are! Fun but risky, on the spur decisions taken when you are away from your daily routine and the usual role you play in life.

    It’s like living in a bubble, with rose tinted glasses on. It’s a heavy cocktail mix of thrill of the unknown and newness of the place all rolled into one. You know it’s shortlived but you want to make the most of it while it lasts without thinking of the detachment pain or the consequences of your impromptu actions. Here you can be just you, without the labels, roles and relationships attached. It’s like living your best life or bachelor days all over again, although briefly.

    And crawling back from this getaway into your routine feels like one big Monday morning blue. It’s that sinking feeling of being forced to work from office after a hiatus. A time travel back into normalcy – daily commute, familial roles and other responsibilities take over. Slowly, steadily the memory, charm and daze of the braids fades away. And all you are left with is your original hairstyle. The one you identify with, the one people identify you with and the one which is your identity!