In sickness we all cherish health,
But then were we not busy chasing wealth!
In loneliness we look for companionship,
Longing for relations we couldn’t help but nip.
In darkness all we need are ray of hopes,
To stop behaving like a bunch of mopes.
So to sadness, illness and despair we say,
Not today my friend, not today ❤️
They say home is where the heart is. & we all love our nests, our homes, our place of belonging. While some of us are builders, some are nesters and the rest are nomads happily moving yet not belonging to any one nest.
Be whatever, there comes a time when we start missing our nest – either the one we built or one we grew up in. The one we grew up in holds a special place in our heart. Emotional attachment keeps us going back to it or atleast longing to go back to it. A trip down memory lane for nostalgia sake feeds our soul wishing we could be here forever.
And on the other hand, the one we build is dear as it’s truly ours. Every day life keeps us busy, yet pulling us to create the best for our future generations. Filling our creative soul with purpose and motivation as the joy of creation is next to none.
The lucky ones don’t have to choose as they get to nurture their childhood place. But then these are rare. Most of us shuttle between the two worlds. & some souls have only one of the two nests. Whatever be your situation, play it out with hope in heart and smile on face ❤️
Is being romantic only the territory of couples? How can singles keep the romance in life alive?
Romance is nothing but a feeling of mystery and excitement, often associated with love. It takes you away from everyday life and builds a sense of remoteness.
Love yourself – Spend time your own way without any shackles or constraints. Unhinged and unabashedly keep aside a few minutes everyday to spend time the way you like, not dictated by your daily routine, chores or family commitments.
Prioritize yourself – Hobbies, food, outfits, events. The choice is yours and only yours. Guard it selfishly, cos if you don’t decide for yourself then others would!
Keep your network alive – Whether it is friends, family or colleagues keep in touch and invest your time in nurturing these for the future. After all no man’s an island (or woman for that matter).
In short enjoy the little things in life. Sans anyone. Be the best companion you can ever get, full of positivity and strength. Trust me, no one can do it for you!
Matches may be made in heaven but marriages are made on earth and need nurturing like any other earthling. So whether you choose your spouse or your parents did, whether you dated your spouse for long time or few months, it is rare that 2 people are doing the ‘waltz’ absolutely in sync all the time. There would be mis-steps here and a beat lost there, but as long as you can correct your form – the show can go on!
Here is my mantra of keeping at it, coming from a pool of decades of marriage experience and multiple conversations with married couples.
Team work – It’s a team play with your spouse, so there can be only 1 leader at a time. So lead here, follow there. ‘cos 200% is also a problem so don’t expect a 100% from them every single time. There would always be a leader and a follower in each situation, keep true to your strengths and let the other person lead too.
Preserving individuality – Keeping to your me time and staying true to it. Yes we could spend every living moment with our spouse, but trust me that would leave you with no room (literally). So keep to your hobbies, a happier you would result in a happier ‘us’.
Acknowledging the differences – not turning your spouse into your clone, after all you married then for being themselves. Easier said than done but please embrace the diversity they bring – whether in food or parenting.
Talk talk talk, just talk it out. Don’t sleep over the arguments, cold war doesn’t help anyone ever. So whatever be the situation, make sure to communicate with your spouse and not just shut down.
So keep coming back to these basics to keep life stress free. After all no marriage is perfect by design, you have to make it memorable by choice.
For all the years past, all the love lost and all the silence borne. I wish I could cry in your arms until the tears stopped flowing. I wish I could erase the memories sparing just the laughs. I wish I could ease the pain until only love remained.
I wish I could find words to express. Courage to ask forgiveness. Strength to meet you. Intellect to rein emotions. I want to keep the memories minus the aches, the experience without the trauma and the faces without the words that were exchanged.
In forgiveness I seek freedom. Freedom from guilt, ache, painful memories and all the sufferings related to it. For in my mind I am still the wrong doer who is out free and hence doesn’t deserve to be happy.
Are we being kind only when taking care of our family? Or also when we extend care-giving to our elders and sick ones? Or is kindness only reserved for our interactions outside our homes. Like when we hold the elevator for our neighbours? Or when we greet our friendly grocery guy?
Or is it an act of kindness when a cabbie offers you extra tips and hacks in a new city? Or a stranger in the waiting queue guides you to the best dishes of the restaurant you are waiting to dine in?
Kindness needs no language or religion. It’s the global unifying tie that can bind all humanity. Only if we remember that small acts of kindness can keep our earth flourishing with love and warmth for centuries to come
No it’s not a typo, no auto-correct here. I mean busyness – that state where one consciously keeps busy fluttering from one task to another. In short the opposite of stillness. Also not to be confused with the word business though I wonder if busyness & business share a common origin.
So how does one master this art – practise my friend. Stay occupied all day, every day. At work, at play. Come rain, come shine. Turn into a bee worker, not pausing for a breather. And you would seemingly appear the most important person without whom the world would collapse.
Or become a mindful zen, a practitioner of slow living. Give your mind, body and soul alternate spurts of intense productivity and ‘do nothing’ breaks. Try it, it is a game changer to being your best version. & yes I mean business here.
As I complete another year around the sun, I wonder if I am gaining years alone. Or am I also gaining the weight of life experiences, lessons from triumphs and failures and much more bodily fat than before!
So yes I am older but also bolder in my thoughts, more comfortable in sharing my beliefs and confident in standing by my life choices.
Yes I may be a bit more cautious, slightly hesitant and taking longer than before in making decisions. But I take it as a sign of responsibility, to live and let live without the burden of judgement.
So to all of us growing older, wiser and maybe slightly less lively than before – cheers to the new you. Your evolution path is unique to you so drown out the noise & don’t let anyone dim the shine you radiate.
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