Nidhis.daily.blog

Category: self growth

  • Vacation-land

    Dreamy, idle, stress free. A world of dreams and fantasy. Where you are not bound by your daily routine, 9-5 day job, household chores and adult responsibilities. In short vacations, short or long, exotic or mundane transport you to a La la land.

    The place where you can be ‘not you’. The place where you can be ‘what you wish to be when free from worldly ties’. The place where you can visualise, talk, behave and live the life of your dreams. Where you can unburden yourself and live the fantasy life you desire.

    As all dreams come to a beautiful end, so does the vacation. Cut to reality, back to the daily grind, your land of work and living; filled with the daily calendar and numerous commitments of an adult life. Good morning 🌞

  • Ebb and flow

    Disappointed by the way your interaction with friend/colleague/neighbour/partner turned out? Feeling sore? Wondering if you did something wrong or they didn’t get you?

    We have all been there, done that, haven’t we. Spent hours of time and loads of energy analyzing (sometimes over analyzing). What went wrong, what could you have done differently, what can you still do to salvage the situation?

    Cut to the chase, we can view each action as a wave in the ocean. These actions come and go in our life, hitting us differently each time. Just like no two waves are similar, your and the other person’s actions during an interaction may not be similar. Or of the same intensity or even complementary to each other. You may be riding a high, and them a low. Or vice versa. Just bearing in mind that these waves are not permanent and lasting, makes us more accepting and less anxious as an individual.

    After all each of us are on our unique journeys, some ahead, some behind. Some nearing one milestone of life and others at another crossroad. The best part is that we are all beings of the same ocean, shall meet here and there. One day, some day.

  • Being human

    To be human is to ‘be’ and not to be ‘done’. So there may never be a perfect you, because you would always be a ‘work in progress’.

    And that’s great news! As everyday you are a 0.01% better than yesterday and that my friend is nothing but progress. That is to ‘be’. And that is the greatest gift as you are alive and kicking.

    But aren’t we supposed to be perfect – the best spouse, parent, sibling, child, friend that ever walked on the earth. Yes you are but sadly being the complex human ‘being’ that you are it would take many a lifetimes to be there. So you do you and you be you. Here and now, rather than waiting to be the elusive epitome of perfectionism. It’s a mirage so rather live for today than worry for tomorrow.

  • The right time

    Is there ever a right time? Or rather can the timing ever be wrong? To action, to grow, to be yourself? To move out of the comfort zone, to feel the pain, to have those difficult conversations? To hustle, to sweat, to ache?

    Or is now the best time? Or is today the best day? Or here is the best place to be?

  • Work : Boon or Bane

    The West sometimes treats work like a punishment. Do your tasks and get out of the work mode faster than you can imagine. The concept of earning faster, living frugal and retiring early have been a rage for quite some time now.

    But wonder what one would do if one doesn’t ‘work’? Imagine a life where you have no purpose of formal work to drive you. What would you do with the 8-9 hours at hand daily? Well you could spend an hour or two on your physical well being, another hour on your spiritual or mental well being. A couple of hours daily on household chores, which still leaves one with half a ‘work’ day and no more hobbies to pursue or quality time to spend with near dear ones.

    Work need not be worship. There could be an 8 hour work day or a 4 hour work day – and sometimes even a zero hour work day. But treating work sacred can give life a vision for the future, a sense of being useful to humankind and a source of real human connections in this fleeting world. Thereby I say, all play and no work would make Jane a dull girl too.

  • Sports maketh a man

    They say all work and no playing makes Jack a dull boy. Indeed apart from the exercise it imparts to the body, it shapes the mind profoundly too.

    The virtues of discipline, focus and fairness are foundational to sports. Whether played as an individual player or a team, one way or the other, sports do shape one’s character.

    Some play to win, while others play to learn. Take your pick and make at least one game your way of life. Adds lightness to your stride and years to your life.

  • Discipline or Motivation

    Classic chicken and egg case – what comes first motivation or discipline. If you have been procrastinating, you would say motivation as it’s been evading you for a while.

    While if you have been inconsistently awaiting results, you would say discipline as it might hold the key to your success.

    Either way is good, as long as it gets you out of inaction and inches you to get going at your goals. Remember it’s not either or. As discipline minus motivation shall only lead to boredom. And motivation minus discipline would add to your pile of unfinished goals. A healthy dose of both is ideal!

  • In search of greener pastures

    Miss your home, your land? I do. I often dream of being able to pack up and move, take my home and set up my nest back in the hills of Himalayas.

    I didn’t grow up there but still have a strong umbilical tie to my native. A place one grows up in or has ancestral ties to – anything can be that home, that land, the one with which we relate, we feel belonged, we long to keep going back to.

    As often we don’t miss something until we don’t have it anymore. This longing is when you are removed or away for reasons – one or many. Some move for making a living, others for better growth opportunities. Some move for peace and prosperity, others for the glamour of the unknown.

    Wherever you go, take a piece of your roots alongside – the food, the music, the language, the rituals, the outfits – after all these elements make up your culture. Merging the old with the new, preserving what’s relevant and adopting to what’s more suited. This way the grass would continue to look green if you keep watering it, my friend.

  • The gift of Present

    The past lures, remorse of what could have been and how,

    The future captivates, with dreams unfulfilled as of now.

    Dwelling in the past or imagining the future – easy, fulfilling yet an unfruitful way to make time kill.

    Shake yourself up & level up in the present; it’s here, it’s now, it’s real and it’s yours to go ahead and build.

  • Pains of aging

    Sometime we can unknowingly invite troubles by asking for help. Especially help from aging parents, who are at times erratic and not consistent in their responses. Logic and rationale seems to surpass them many a times, making us wonder if they are the same adults who brought us up.

    They grow selfish, trying to guard themselves even while helping their own children. In the middle of all this, they unknowingly throw you – the (grown up) child, under the bus. I am sure no parent, however old, would do it on purpose. But its most likely an outcome of a battle in their mind. On one hand they think ‘I have done enough for my child’ and on other hand they tell themselves ‘I should now look for myself’.

    Not much to do here for the (grown up) child. Except for taking the path of self reliance, keeping expectations superbly low and undercutting on your asks from them. It’s physics after all, less strain equals better longevity!