Nidhis.daily.blog

Category: self growth

  • Eureka!

    That moment of awakening, clarity and absoluteness. When you see the path with accuracy and exactness. No doubts, no if’s and definitely no but’s. Pure vision of your choices, conclusions and consequences. No more hallucinations, assumptions and scenarios in your head, thereby no more fog.

    Mightier than sword

    And then realisation dawns. You run back the stories you told yourself, the narrative that ran in your head and the various situations that played out in your imagination. Some wild, some weird; some annoying, some downright humorous. Spent quite some bright and productive hours overthinking, agonising, painting a picture in your head. All of this drama only to wake up to the facts one day, some day.

    So rather than being a prisoner of your own thoughts, better spend that time making hay as the sun shines. If only we can live each day, every day like this, it would be a Eureka moment daily!

  • Protect Your Energy

    Ever found yourself sucked into problems not your own, plans driven by others, subscriptions you never wanted to land at your doorstep? Happens to all of us, even the ones who gaurd their boundaries superbly well. Step back, review and plan. Is your time at your disposal? Are you letting people and their voices creep into your mindspace? Are the interactions fuelling you with energy or gnawing away your productive time?

    Guarding yourself, first.

    Reviewed – well done. What next, cut the umbilical cord? Yes but only in fantasy world because the real world is small village and you’ll soon be left alone if you keep closing doors on people.

    Maintain a soft exterior. Smile more often. Make eye contact on jokes. Connect in more generic ways. Appear welcoming and warm. Turn your kindness into your strength. Stay polite but firm on your ground when it comes to saying yes.

    Remain tough on the inside. Keep your emotional resilience high. Let your quiet confidence boost your self esteem. Keep your inner circle selective. Stay emotionally available to those who truly deserve.

    In short don’t burn bridges but don’t let the flames leave holes on your inner peace as well.

  • Traveller for life

    Be a traveller. Not a tourist. Traveller keeps an attitude to learn, to soak, to absorb and to assimilate. While a tourist is looking at the same experiences from a superficial lens, a traveller goes deeper and imbibes from one’s travels.

    And not just from one or two travels. Being a traveller means to pick from everyone, everywhere, everyplace. From every experience, good or bad, small or big. Afterall nothing is permanent except what you gain out of it and what you become. What becomes part of you stays with you while all else is temporary. We pass through our travels in life like a traveller in a bullet train; zooming past people, events, landscapes.

    A traveller yearns to soak in traditions, rituals, food from his travels. Even life lessons, friendships, situations and one’s own reactions. It’s a state of constant learning by being humble, aware and reciprocative.

    A traveller builds resilience, feeds curiosity and develops oneself in ways unknown. It could be self discovery or exploration to be more, do more. Basically being a traveller lets you live many lives within one life!

  • My Rich Life

    Rich could mean fancy food, it could mean a month long vacation each year or just picking up kids from school. Rich life can mean different things to different people. Let no one version be your truth; observe, seek and define your own rich life.

    Basically rich life is your version of freedom. It could be the freedom to climb professional success without guilt. Or the freedom to build a business you always dreamt of. It could be the freedom of choosing slow life and personal peace over conventional success parameters. Sometimes it could just mean the freedom to be mobile, on your own two feet and be in a healthy state of body and mind.

    What you consider luxury could be condemned by another. & you could very well be loathing or despising another’s way of life. It’s only wise to choose your own path, something that is uniquely yours. As per your life goals, current lifestyle and priorities. Chasing a dream life which isn’t your own dream is like living a nightmare of sorts. Cos you would be chasing objectives which deeply don’t mean anything personal to you. Such struggles won’t add value to your life in ways which would be significant or sustainable. The why to choosing a rich life and striving upto it should be uniquely yours.

    Define your own rich. It should be yours and not what you see around you. Or what is conventionally considered being rich or a status symbol. Not owning a house is not a failure. Not having kids is not a failure. Not building a business empire is not a failure. Not climbing corporate ladder is not a failure. Not being a stay at home parent is not a failure. Not having a millionaire partner so that you can go without earning a single day is not a failure.

    Rich is when you have peace. Rich is when you have happiness. Rich is when you are content. Rich is when you are healthy, grateful and blessed for what you have. So go on design your life around the riches you treasure and hold yourself accountable for them.

  • Live rich, die poor

    Most of us are taught to save up for a rainy day. But in reality most of us end up living this saying to the T; to an extent that we even sacrifice our today for this tomorrow. We are so focused on earnings and savings that current comforts take a backseat. Whatever remains afterwards is what’s used to bring form and functionality to current living. This I call as the frugal life. It’s good for a short sprint but not sustainable in the long run.

    On the other hand, some of us are almost always living this philosophy in the reverse manner. So they spend the paycheck the minute it lands and the thought of savings doesn’t cross their mind very often. More often than not, such folks keep very little to no track of their earnings (& thereby spendings). I call this the chill life. Again can run for a short while but definitely not keeping for the long run.

    How if we trained our minds and spending habits to focus on the present comforts? I say comforts, not luxuries cos then sky is the limit. Choose functionality over flashy. Choose practicality over poshness. So what we earn we spend to make daily life comfortable and worth the grind. This way we spend more when we live than save for more when we die. Thereby making the most of the money we earn by spending wisely on today than mindlessly saving for tomorrow!

  • So how were your tourist braids?!

    Ever got a braid, a tattoo or your hair coloured on a whimsical vacation? Or better still a one time encounter with a stranger which lasted only until the trip lasted? That’s exactly what tourist braids are! Fun but risky, on the spur decisions taken when you are away from your daily routine and the usual role you play in life.

    It’s like living in a bubble, with rose tinted glasses on. It’s a heavy cocktail mix of thrill of the unknown and newness of the place all rolled into one. You know it’s shortlived but you want to make the most of it while it lasts without thinking of the detachment pain or the consequences of your impromptu actions. Here you can be just you, without the labels, roles and relationships attached. It’s like living your best life or bachelor days all over again, although briefly.

    And crawling back from this getaway into your routine feels like one big Monday morning blue. It’s that sinking feeling of being forced to work from office after a hiatus. A time travel back into normalcy – daily commute, familial roles and other responsibilities take over. Slowly, steadily the memory, charm and daze of the braids fades away. And all you are left with is your original hairstyle. The one you identify with, the one people identify you with and the one which is your identity!

  • Gone, forever

    End of an era. Death of a relation. Cessation to thrive. Expiration of feelings. Termination of exchanges. Completion of dettachment. Conclusion in unsaid goodbye. Finale of fading memory. Grave of dreams. Gone too soon.

    Thanking the universe for conspiring. Grateful for the moments. Blessed with the memories. Appreciative of the growth. Beholden for the words. Indebted to bring out the best. Obliged to share world. Glad our paths crossed.

    The great fall

    Tears would not flow. Moments won’t be recollected. Words shall not be exchanged. Voices shall be a thing of the past. Harsh but only option. Dead end of sorts. Yearning, longing, everything can be shelved. Immerse in yourself, outwardly busy, inwardly lost.

    A not so happy ending, once again. History repeats, roles reverse. ‘cos what is not meant to be never will be. Closing the paths to heart, the fancies of mind and the longing of soul with a finale. A tribute to finding peace not promises. A mission to let bygones be bygones. An operation to erase what was, hope not and let the memories fade out, once more.

  • Renew your relations

    Monotone, platonic, never-changing, always the same. Sounds boring right? Then why do we expect our relationships to be such. Why do words like change, newness, disruption cause us cold feet?

    Relationships are like living organisms. They are never stable. Whether it’s with your partner, friends, parents or siblings. Each relation is like an organism that has its own wishes, fancies and moods. The equation can undergo change in due course of time. It can change multiple times, with its own highs and lows, in’s and out’s. Stay unpurterbed as the true nature of a relation is to evolve, morph and take the shape of your lifestyle, milestones and other key aspects of life.

    Sometimes just looking at the equation with a critical pair of eyes helps. A fresh Point of View always helps. Something that worked in the past is no longer relevant while something that didn’t work might now be a huge hit. Thus it’s a mistake to write off any relationship and burn bridges completely. Never give up on the partnership you got as it is never a lost cause. The time you invested is always going to get you a return of equity. Infact it’s a wealth of wisdom, memories and shared experiences you have built together. There are pearls of wisdoms ingrained in your subtle memory, today or tomorrow they would make you a better version of you.

    Tomorrow always brings the opportunity to start afresh. Thus tidying over the weather is in everyone’s best interest, especially yours to make the gains both tangible as well as intangible.

  • Life raft

    There are times when all the positive talks, motivational podcasts, self-help books and even in person talks leave you only more unmotivated. It’s like going through a dark phase of life when you loose all hope. All seems lost, everything seems to drain your energy and every interaction is something you want to run away from. In such moments, nothing seems possible and even moving a lomb seems like a herculean task.

    But like every dark cloud has a silver lining, there is light after darkness, day after night and spring after the long winter is gone. When you feel you are in the darkest, dullest and deepest phase of life, be grateful and hang on. Cos it can’t be any worse now, now is going to be only uphill, brighter days and lovelier moments. So hang in tight and keep your head above water until the inflection point arrives.

    Life is cyclical, don’t be harsh!

    So that one moment, one person, one interaction or one line you read or hear somewhere is going to be your life raft. Your ray of hope. Your float jacket which would bring a newness in everyday life. It wouldn’t bring earth shattering change but would make you move more, live more and be more. You would start taking baby steps, quite literally towards using your time better, using your body and brain better. And slowly spring would blossom into full blown summer where you would peak and shine.

    & since impermanance is the name of the game, this also wouldn’t last long. Be ready for the cyclical autumn to set in and take it in your stride now that you now that after winter is a spring!

  • Are you patriotic?

    Do you love your nation? Do you feel proud to be a citizen? In short are you patriotic?

    While it’s natural to crib, complain and curse the state of affairs, afterall we all do love our soil, our nation and our country. It’s like a love hate relationship going on. Looking constantly at the shortcomings in order to get better and be better. Isn’t that logical when we love someone? We keep the same attitude towards ourselves, our partner, our kids and any near & dear one who we want to be cheering for. So don’t blame yourself for constantly being annoyed by what your country haas done for you – it shall improve and you truly would be a part of that success story.

    All eyes on the flag!

    So now that we have established that you indeed are a nation-lover, what do you think it means to you? To sing songs, participate as an audience in community programs, wishing folks on celebrated days and maybe even making sure you plan something around such specials days.

    Or is it paying your taxes on time, sorting your garbage, being an active participant in community drives and sharing ‘nationalist knowledge’ in the form of forwards to all your connects.

    Or does it go beyond to do your bit to keep the environment clean, teach your next generations to value our heritage, keep culture like food, dressing, language alive and support local artisans and artisinal endeavours.

    Where ever you are in your journey of country-love, remember what J F Kennedy said, “Ask not what the country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country!”