Nidhis.daily.blog

Author: nidhikaintura23

  • It takes two to tango ( and plenty to party)

    Group dynamics are interesting social settings to ponder over. & here are my observations from the past decade of friendships.
    A two-person setup keeps it tight, personal and sometimes even deep. Deep gossip or deep intellectual – it can swing from either extreme. Yet it’s an unsigned deal between the two folks to keep the conversation to themselves as these are shared in privacy as both confide in each other.

    1, 2, 3, 4, get on the dance floor

    Make it three individuals and the setting becomes a bit more less intimate, more formal and way more lighter. Of course it can get weird with one feeling left out while the other two bond and the dynamics get a bit odd (literally and figuratively as well). After all, the odd (wo) man out has no option but to listen in and try to fit in!
    But add another person and cross-talks are an option now! Nobody feels left out as you can pick up another conversation with the fourth guy. Now it’s all fun and laughter, good humored banter sprinkled with bitching and whining where all join in with their experiences. No room for sad or serious topics here mind you as all are full of jest.
    Whatever your cup of tea; tango or tri-party or full-blown party; keep sipping as much and as often from all the flavors of life. After all YOLO 😉

  • Half-empty Nest

    A couple being by themselves once the children move out is commonly termed Empty Nest. & this usually happens once the children are 20 years or older and have moved out for college or career. But these days younger parents could be facing a half-empty nest with kids even as young as 10 years.

    As the child approaches middle school and starts building a network of friendship and hobbies, she is away from home for more than half the day. Moreover she has started making her own decisions for trivial matters of clothing, feeding and the like so interactions with parents are limited in this sense too.


    For material things like food, money and complex social situations, she may still need you; the parent; and your role as a provider gets fulfilled therein. But you may start missing the hugs and kisses, the series of ‘why questions’ & the silly jokes, pillow fights as there is no room for it!

    On my own!

    Staying in the moment and cherishing time with your child is the best parenting experience one can provide. Afterall this mid-life half-empty next would only make the parent stronger for what comes a decade later – a fully empty nest ☹

  • Dreamers

    To dream or not to dream? Isn’t a dream what the heart desires or the mind’s been keeping at the back burner? But what about desiring without action; isn’t it borderline fantasizing.

    Dream you, be you.

    A dream with an action plan and a target date to accomplish becomes a goal. A tangible objective which can be chased with concrete actions. So not all dreaming is just a figment of the idle mind.  Afterall, the world conspires what the heart desires. So go on, dream with your eyes wide open ♥️

  • Is wrong also right?

    It is well understood that we shouldn’t judge others. But what if we understood how to not judge ourselves as well. Was I wrong in doing what I did? Or was I right in believing what I did?

    Half full or half empty?

    Pondering over past decisions, situations and playing them out differently in our head is a great exercise. But needs an aware and cautious mind to meticulously navigate this tricky labyrinth. Being able to distinguish between reality, aspirations and dreams is where one must draw the line.

    Right or wrong then merely becomes relative. It is a question of perspective, ideology or morals. Cos one person’s wrong maybe another’s right!

  • Bittersweet

    It’s that feeling of tingle which fills your heart with sadness and at the same time sprinkles joy amidst the darkness. It’s similar to a dark moonlit night where there is the cover of darkness in the night but the subtle moonlight lingers on giving you hope and perspective.

    It’s the feeling when you have been waiting for something to happen but also half wish that it would happen later than sooner. Like losing a loved one to a long fought terminal illness, fallout with a beloved friend which is irrevocable or the empty nest which you want to stay filled with the conversations and laughter of your children.

  • Happy birthday or Sad birthday

    Is it just me or you also have felt sad on a birthday ever? Sad as it reminds you of aging. Or sad due to the feeling of loneliness on one day of the 365 days of the year. Or sad due to missing someone terribly on their special day.

    Two for Joy

    If yes, then let’s try to remember our loved ones, honour their rituals and feel blessed for what exists and what lies imprinted in our memories. ✨

  • The more you pack, the less you belong

    As most Asian developed cities get densely crowded, vertical housing &  matchbox living has become a way of life; the cost of owning things has become higher. People invest more in storage systems than in setting or bedding systems.

    Moments over material

    Wonder how long it would take us to realize that one needs less to thrive. One can focus more when there is less clutter and that simple living can indeed lead to higher thinking.

  • Just kidding

    We are all born free, creative and happy. Then why do we let these be taken from us – the freedom to dream, the creativity to discover things on our own and the happiness that lights up our eyes.

    Fact or fiction?

    Stay a child at heart and there would be less sorrows, less heartbreaks and less stress. Sprinkle some humour, add some forgiveness and stir in tons of kindness. There I just spilled the beans on bringing back the joys of childhood into our uber rushed lives!

  • The race

    Busy? Stressed? Too tired but pushing?

    Ever stopped and wondered what keeps you busy and not excited? What gives rise to that stress and not joy? What makes you tired rather than giving you zeal to do more & be more?

    Because that could be ‘your race’, the one which you would always win, always excel at and shall bring a smile to your face no matter how tough the going gets.

    Light your own path

    So pause, reflect and carve your race, your path. Since you too maybe running a race with no reason; a race which is not yours!

  • Validation

    Should we seek it or find it within? I say neither, learn to live with your inner voice. It’s true, intuitive and just.

    Reflections are us

    Of course, most people tend to overthink and the analysis could be harsher than reality. So practise the art of tuning out the noise and picking just the voice which resonates minus any judgments and criticality.