Nidhis.daily.blog

Category: self growth

  • Discipline or Motivation

    Classic chicken and egg case – what comes first motivation or discipline. If you have been procrastinating, you would say motivation as it’s been evading you for a while.

    While if you have been inconsistently awaiting results, you would say discipline as it might hold the key to your success.

    Either way is good, as long as it gets you out of inaction and inches you to get going at your goals. Remember it’s not either or. As discipline minus motivation shall only lead to boredom. And motivation minus discipline would add to your pile of unfinished goals. A healthy dose of both is ideal!

  • In search of greener pastures

    Miss your home, your land? I do. I often dream of being able to pack up and move, take my home and set up my nest back in the hills of Himalayas.

    I didn’t grow up there but still have a strong umbilical tie to my native. A place one grows up in or has ancestral ties to – anything can be that home, that land, the one with which we relate, we feel belonged, we long to keep going back to.

    As often we don’t miss something until we don’t have it anymore. This longing is when you are removed or away for reasons – one or many. Some move for making a living, others for better growth opportunities. Some move for peace and prosperity, others for the glamour of the unknown.

    Wherever you go, take a piece of your roots alongside – the food, the music, the language, the rituals, the outfits – after all these elements make up your culture. Merging the old with the new, preserving what’s relevant and adopting to what’s more suited. This way the grass would continue to look green if you keep watering it, my friend.

  • The gift of Present

    The past lures, remorse of what could have been and how,

    The future captivates, with dreams unfulfilled as of now.

    Dwelling in the past or imagining the future – easy, fulfilling yet an unfruitful way to make time kill.

    Shake yourself up & level up in the present; it’s here, it’s now, it’s real and it’s yours to go ahead and build.

  • Pains of aging

    Sometime we can unknowingly invite troubles by asking for help. Especially help from aging parents, who are at times erratic and not consistent in their responses. Logic and rationale seems to surpass them many a times, making us wonder if they are the same adults who brought us up.

    They grow selfish, trying to guard themselves even while helping their own children. In the middle of all this, they unknowingly throw you – the (grown up) child, under the bus. I am sure no parent, however old, would do it on purpose. But its most likely an outcome of a battle in their mind. On one hand they think ‘I have done enough for my child’ and on other hand they tell themselves ‘I should now look for myself’.

    Not much to do here for the (grown up) child. Except for taking the path of self reliance, keeping expectations superbly low and undercutting on your asks from them. It’s physics after all, less strain equals better longevity!

  • The new normal

    They say time and tide wait for none, and so shouldn’t I,

    But then it’s been ages, been a while,

    That I felt elated, felt life on a note this high,

    Feeling the emotional tank overflow, sigh!

    Content, comfortable and smiling in my world,

    In the new relations and rituals I was curled.

    Blissfully unaware of what I had lost on the way,

    Or maybe aware but keeping it all tucked away.

    Don’t go that path; cautioned my mind,

    Keeping turning away, an eye blind.

    This new you has all the strength,

    Go embrace it and tread the length.

    Said my heart and good Lord I did hear it,

    Not going to be easy so take it a bit by bit.

    Easy it wasn’t, flowers and thorns alike,

    I like the journey, as much as I now dislike.

    Clear judgement of what’s right and wrong,

    We are in the rightful places where we belong.

    So lighten up, smile and keep it sort of formal,

    After all this is going to be the new normal!

  • Yellow 💛

    In sickness we all cherish health,

    But then were we not busy chasing wealth!

    In loneliness we look for companionship,

    Longing for relations we couldn’t help but nip.

    In darkness all we need are ray of hopes,

    To stop behaving like a bunch of mopes.

    So to sadness, illness and despair we say,

    Not today my friend, not today ❤️

  • Home away from home

    They say home is where the heart is. & we all love our nests, our homes, our place of belonging. While some of us are builders, some are nesters and the rest are nomads happily moving yet not belonging to any one nest.

    Be whatever, there comes a time when we start missing our nest – either the one we built or one we grew up in. The one we grew up in holds a special place in our heart. Emotional attachment keeps us going back to it or atleast longing to go back to it. A trip down memory lane for nostalgia sake feeds our soul wishing we could be here forever.

    And on the other hand, the one we build is dear as it’s truly ours. Every day life keeps us busy, yet pulling us to create the best for our future generations. Filling our creative soul with purpose and motivation as the joy of creation is next to none.

    The lucky ones don’t have to choose as they get to nurture their childhood place. But then these are rare. Most of us shuttle between the two worlds. & some souls have only one of the two nests. Whatever be your situation, play it out with hope in heart and smile on face ❤️

  • Can we love twice?

    ‘We only live once, we only love once’ went the famous dialogue from a romantic love story. Read along to prove its untrue and yes you can learn to love multiple times over.

    How do u define what love is to your kid? Is it an overwhelming sense of affection, or is it a strong sense of attachment or is it a sense of deep concern? There is no one feeling which can describe it accurately. And no one way of expressing one’s love.

    When you feel a strong sense of affection towards your baby, it is nothing but the feeling of love. You show it by your actions of taking utmost care of it, doing all you can to keep it safe and away from any harms.

    Or is love the deep sense of concern you shower on your lover? Wherein you can or cannot care by your actions but go all lengths to express your concern for their well being. Where all you can do is communicate in formal ways and let them drive their own well being.

    Or is love the charged level of enthusiasm which makes you spend hours watching football? Or the deep belief in climate change or Downs syndrome which drives you to go lengths to give your time to support the cause.

    Or is love the passion you express for your spouse or partner? The sense of unbroken commitment, lifelong fidelity and infinite companionship which makes you commit to them.

    So to me all forms of love are true, pure and sincere. And yes you can harbour each of them in your mighty little heart for your loved ones – all at the same time.

  • Romance for the single souls?

    Is being romantic only the territory of couples? How can singles keep the romance in life alive?

    Romance is nothing but a feeling of mystery and excitement, often associated with love. It takes you away from everyday life and builds a sense of remoteness.

    Love yourself  – Spend time your own way without any shackles or constraints. Unhinged and unabashedly keep aside a few minutes everyday to spend time the way you like, not dictated by your daily routine, chores or family commitments.

    Prioritize yourself – Hobbies, food, outfits, events. The choice is yours and only yours. Guard it selfishly, cos if you don’t decide for yourself then others would!

    Keep your network alive – Whether it is friends, family or colleagues keep in touch and invest your time in nurturing these for the future. After all no man’s an island (or woman for that matter).

    In short enjoy the little things in life. Sans anyone. Be the best companion you can ever get, full of positivity and strength. Trust me, no one can do it for you!

  • How to make your marriage work

    Matches may be made in heaven but marriages are made on earth and need nurturing like any other earthling. So whether you choose your spouse or your parents did, whether you dated your spouse for long time or few months, it is rare that 2 people are doing the ‘waltz’ absolutely in sync all the time. There would be mis-steps here and a beat lost there, but as long as you can correct your form – the show can go on!

    Here is my mantra of keeping at it, coming from a pool of decades of marriage experience and multiple conversations with married couples.

    Team work – It’s a team play with your spouse, so there can be only 1 leader at a time. So lead here, follow there. ‘cos 200% is also a problem so don’t expect a 100% from them every single time.  There would always be a leader and a follower in each situation, keep true to your strengths and let the other person lead too.

    Preserving individuality – Keeping to your me time and staying true to it. Yes we could spend every living moment with our spouse, but trust me that would leave you with no room (literally). So keep to your hobbies, a happier you would result in a happier ‘us’.

    Acknowledging the differences – not turning your spouse into your clone, after all you married then for being themselves. Easier said than done but please embrace the diversity they bring – whether in food or parenting.

    Talk talk talk, just talk it out. Don’t sleep over the arguments, cold war doesn’t help anyone ever. So whatever be the situation, make sure to communicate with your spouse and not just shut down.

    So keep coming back to these basics to keep life stress free. After all no marriage is perfect by design, you have to make it memorable by choice.