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Category: self growth

  • Left or Right?

    The sojourn of life isn’t linear, to choose a path; trivial or historic, happens more frequently than not. And then there are times when we come face to face with our deepest fears, darkest desires and despair thoughts. Our brain gets ticking to quickly choose one of the binary options – right or left, flight or fight, leave or stay. Afterall that’s the most efficient way to solve and move along. But it’s simpler said than done, most yogis train their minds and consciousness for years before they can rein in their thoughts and control their subconscious.

    So we lesser beings might as well try other more tactical ways to rein in ourselves. Journaling, mindfulness, hobby classes – they all bring out the sensorial connect and help build focus on mind-body connect. It’s not a ‘bury your thoughts’ approach but rather an attempt to increase the longevity & clarity of your train of thoughts. Serving as a reminder of what’s rationale in the here & now and why you choose a certain path.

    Focus to Flourish

    So in grey lies grief yet in gray lies glassiness. Afterall life is much more messier than our ideologies allow.

  • Embracing Vulnerability

    Sounds like an oxymoron right. But then doesn’t growth does start from the lowest inflection point on the curve. Learning to give a positive spin to your gullible side is like making lemonade out of the sour lemons handed to you.

    Relive the pain
    Wounds that heal

    We were all taught to toughen up and put up a brave face, no matter what. In doing so, we don an armour of self-defence until it becomes second nature. This takes away from being able to face one’s weaknesses. Yet being on a journey of acknowledging your vulnerabilities is very fulfilling. Yes it is rare, yes it is extremely painful and facing one’s deepest emotions isn’t for the faint hearted. Just like an onion, opening up one’s wounds layer by layer and reliving the emotional roller-coaster is scary as hell. Afterall being in the company of one’s emotions, bare and raw, is scathing to say the least.

    The journey comes with its own set of rewards too. A deeper understaning of oneself paves way for an enhanced coping mechanism. Not just that, with a better regulated nervous system you start being more aware of your feelings which helps maintain calm in chaos.

  • What matters next?

    It’s the hi-tech millenia of artificial intelligence, robots and intelligent automation. Humanity is making strides in all branchs of science. Yet in our minds success is mere material, monetary and magnanimus achievements. A bigger apartment, a flashier car, the latest gadgets, another wrist watch. And the wishlist continues, like an bottomless pit.

    Kindness costs nothing

    In a world that prizes constant consumption, how about chasing kindness, empathy and companionship as goals. A world where good behaviour is embraced and warmth is the love language. How about being on a journey where everyone is valued for their existence and the uniqueness they bring to the table.

    So when did you last hear a kid being praised for being kind. In the recent past, do you recall patting your partner for being an empathetic being. Infact when did you pause to count a reconnection with a long lost friend as a personal win. Normalising humanity isn’t rocket science but this surely needs a collective recollect and reset in our over-stimulated cortex!

  • Second Chance

    We often associate kindness as a good deed for others. Being kind is a founding principle taught by most religions. Afterall kindness is basic to humanity and its existence.

    Often kindness can manifest as caring for others, sometimes even at the cost of putting one’s own needs first. But what good would come from all the selflessness if one ain’t being kind to oneself in the first place. Afterall only a full cup can fill others. So why have shame in putting boundaries and claiming me time for the only body, mind and soul who is your lifelong companion – thyself!

    Sipping as the world goes by

    Reclaim your moments, guard them selfishly and indulge in something just for yourself. It won’t make you less of a spouse, partner, parent, child, sibling or whatever roles keep you tied to the routine. Make room for yourself and stay consistent at it. Therefore just like charity, ladies & gentlemen, kindness should also begin at home.

  • Slaying on ur own terms

    Conventional definitions of success? Orthodox measures of a good life? Relearn. Reset. Rewire.

    Not everything we have learnt is relevant in this ever changing world. As institutions evolve and idealogies advance; people rise up the societal pyramid, discovering newer definitions of making a living. Embrace change or perish holds true so those who adapt truly find bliss and peace – beyond conventional happiness.

    Be the lead. Not the best friend. Make no room for self pity. Make way for thinking out of the box, being unbound by conventional wisdom and abide by your own standards of freedom.

  • Filling your own cup first

    It’s never too much when you prioritize yourself and your hobbies before others.

    Ask yourself what roles you play and surely you’ll name everything but not thyself. We are tuned to seeing life from a Point of View of others and not oneself. While in reality the locus lies within. Hence I comes before anyone else, before any other relations.

    A well oiled and cared for machine serves better and lasts longer than one which has been tirelessly put to use but unserviced. Thus when we care for things, they care for us. The same holds for our body, mind and soul. We can be a better functioning human when our we fill our cups first and foremost.

  • Class apart

    Empathy is as rare as common sense. If only every class could empathize with the other and be willing to put themselves in the others shoes, the world could be a more harmonious place to live. More homogenous, blurring the boundaries between the haves and have-nots. Making inter-class interactions more wholesome than a facade. Giving a chance to young couples who want families to mingle and offsprings to flourish via best of both worlds.

    But then these are idealistic thoughts, a utopia which exists only in tales. Balancing empathy with self respect is a fine task and not many are adept in it. So sadly the next generations mostly learn to sneer upon a lower class or drool upon a higher one. Either ways they shall find their footing on their own.

  • Time : Reality or Myth

    Time though a well established fourth dimension, is perceived differently by everyone. It seems to pass slowly when facing hardships and flies fast when in celebratory mode.

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    What if we were told that time never existed? Actually it has no tangible existence until defined by milestones. Time is just our mind’s way of recording memories, events and happenings of life. It’s a medium to record, annotate and even rank our life as it happens.

  • Aging Alone

    Ever wondered who would you want to grow old with? Your friends, your siblings, your offsprings, your spouse?

    There is no dearth of options. As economies start aging, formalized old age resorts would be a viable option for those who can afford. Ofcourse state-run welfare programs rarely target this age group, except for retirement pension schemes which already weigh down the government’s balance sheet. But besides the maths and economics of it all, the social and psychological tangent is also an aspect to ponder. Would you be open to embracing new faces in your silver years?

    Or is it enough to have just I, me, myself for vibing and slaying these post-retirement years? So that you can spend time the way you want, structure your life around your own priorities and live unhinged. With great freedom may come greater loneliness, so be prepared to welcome the silence and the solitude as a blissful change in your life!

  • Science of Gratitude

    Making it more than a good vibe or nicety. It’s can become an intentional act that reshapes how one experiences life. If one can focus on what’s already here and not on what’s missing – one can grow the capacity for joy.

    Neuroscience studies show gratitude activates parts of brain responsible for regulating emotions and improving decision making. Growing the brain’s neural pathways stronger. It’s like strength training for the brain – the more you do it, the easier it gets.

    Don’t mistake gratitude for an act of denial. It’s more like an act of defiance – a self-refusal to be consumed by negativity. A hack to thrive even when life itself isn’t perfect!