In today’s era, we often rush to draw conclusions, haste to put labels and are quick (sometimes lightning quick) to make go/no go decisions.
What if we made more room for errors, laughed on the silly bits and listened without judgements. Accepting the imperfections of people around us and unfocusing on the fixes we wish for them.
Unbridled, this is when we start bonding without expectations and yet keep the elbow room for erring. I am, if I start separating the dude from the deed, indeed.
“So how much did you loose?” An innocent question from a curious workout buddy. & a seemingly straight forward answer is what she was hoping for. But I had to shatter her thoughts mid-way. I learnt early on to not chase losses but rather was more focused on gaining! I am here to gain : build strength, improve energy levels and increase stamina – this was me on day one of consulting the certified coach.
And like they say, find a guru you can follow and look no further. So here I am; 10 months later, stronger in my stride, lighter in my body and calmer in my mind. & the gains are far more than what I set out for – a coach who cheers, friends who are now my safe space and confidence to be a better “me”. Now amidst all those gains, why care to measure a few pounds lost!
Remote working supports meaningful starts to the day, not in a random rush. One where hurriedness doesn’t drive things, purpose does. This can lead to comprehensive well rounded days which develop organically and not forcefully. With spare time at hand, community participation gets boosted.
As long as a routine is built – one with purpose, intention and holistic view of personal and professional growth; remote working can help flourish. Growth comes by focus and connection which are basically energy directed in the right way. Isolation is the poison not remote work.
My 7 year old questioned why a certain footballer has thick dark black hair – explained how human bodies adapted to where their ancestors settled. Explainging pangea to evolution to the kid was quite a feat for my mind. & I felt I had nailed the day.
But curious kid had more questions for me. Now he wanted to understand why his teen cousin keeps giggling and not indulge in usual conversation or games. He is autistic hence communication is not a well developed skill but is able bodied enough to cycle and swim. But my kid wasn’t convinced that his brain is wired differently as he couldn’t apparently see any factors contributing to it. Now that’s the challenge with neurodiversity, it’s invisible and it’s causal factors are difficult to pin-point. If kids can’t wrap their heads around it, neither would adults. We have a long way to go as humankind in making this diversity a mainstream agenda for greater equity.
In the movie Holiday, two not-so-young independent working women swap homes for a week and experience each other’s life across the Atlantic.
Sometimes all we need are experiences like this which we can experience by all our senses. To value what we got, reinforce what tests us and reconcile with the choices we made.
Now that was movie so the protagonists walk into the love of their lives and all ends well. Fast forward to reality, not necessarily every such experience would be as rosy. But if we could imbibe even one percent from every such interaction, we could very well enrich our own life by the many lives!
It actually is very exciting to be busy living, thriving the way you want, growing and being more than you were yesterday.
And it’s even more exciting to be able to share it with others. Your inner group, your circle, the folks who knows you for the roles or relations you play in their lives.
And it’s a thrill to go public with your life’s nuances – the high one seems from the validation got from the anonymous online world. Your life’s trivials could go viral and seemingly mundane stuff could grab more eyeballs than imagined.
It’s this high that drives ‘creators’ and ‘influencers’ of this era. Not that we as public are to abstain completely from consuming what’s available. It’s a good source of information but the magic is in finding the balance. To let ourselves decide what we consume rather than the being a slave to the algorithm.
Humans constantly influence, negotiate and motivate since prehistoric ages. Influence is not a new currency, it is the first one indeed.
On a daily basis one influences one’s seniors, colleagues & teams to build speed agility at workplace. One acts as a positive influence for family to keep at routines. Infact even seemingly inconsequential decisions like where to dine, which flight to take, etc require influencing one’s peers.
Thus we are all influencers. And shall always be 💪
Read a book and you learn. Live through an experience and you gain knowledge.
Both go hand in hand as an individual grows and shapes up in life. Neither is superior to the other, nor can one suffice what other imparts. Without learning and individual is at loss of understanding the fundamentals. Without knowledge an individual is not worldly wise.
Vashisth imparted learning to Ram while Vishwamitra gave opportunities to face the reality of the world. Can you imagine Ram being the मर्यादा पुरुष, the best of men without either?
Choices. We make numerous of them on daily basis. Some turn out good, others may fall flat. Infact even that is just a perspective. One man’s good can be another’s bad.
All choices difficult are different. But not necessarily all choices different are difficult. It’s a matter of perspective, a diverse point of view and an understanding which lies deep within each one of us.
Lots we do is about securing, planning and building the future.
Stashing away stuff for a prized event. Organizing routines for a special occasion. Looking forward to a celebration.
All this when we can’t be sure of how tomorrow is going to turn out. Dead or alive, we can’t see into the crystal bowl.
So celebrate today. It’s a privilege to be alive & kicking. Having food on the plate, clothes to wear and roof over the head calls for being grateful and feeling special too.
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