Nidhis.daily.blog

Category: Relationship

  • Groceries got a Gender!

    When did grocery shopping get gender-ised?! When a gourmet grocery outlet opened in my locality last month, the late-adopter in me sat back and waited to pickup the feedback buzz from the early birds. While that took longer than a month, I happened to browse through their website via a local number which came into circulation as a group forwarded on a WhatsApp.

    While the outlet itself is a part of the larger retail group and hence gets credibility from the corporate brand, I was aghast to find labels like ‘her’, ‘she’ in describing their target customer segment and clientele on a public forum. As far as I remember, grocery was simple affair where the man got supplies what the woman cooked. Seems men got smarter to offload this ‘homely’ chore in the turn of the century and women lapped it up like a glorified shopping experience!

  • Daddy’s day

    Social media gets flooded each ‘celebratory’ day – pressure posts by peers and ads by every big or small seller. Good for economy to push consumerism, meh for consumers who are discerning enough to separate the noise from the reality.

    It’s nice to be with the crowd but even better to make memories your own way. Afterall no two dads are the same, so why copy-paste the wishes!

  • In all her glory

    There is no dearth of strong ladies around me.

    The ones now living life on own terms but having come out of bad relationship in the past.

    The ones stuck in sanguine relationship yet financially dependent on someone else.

    The single ready to mingle kinds who battle societal pressure everyday.

    The ones in a fulfilling relationship but striving to build an identity outside it.

    The ones having lived their lives fulfillingly and now asking almighty for an end.

    The ones who put their best foot forward everyday for their kids, despite being looked down upon.

    Tons of females out there who fit this description. But a handful have given me a sneak peek into their lives. Displaying resilience and fortitude, working towards their goal laboriously. Every interaction leaves me inspired and awed; often motivating me to take a balanced view of my own life.

  • Other side of the rainbow

    Be or don’t be, say or don’t say,

    The wait continues another day.

    I cry when I think of you,

    when I cry, all I think is you.

    I shall always be yours and you mine,

    One day, someday, when we can turn back time.

    I don’t feel ill for what you got or built,

    Neither do I vie for it, no guilt.

    Cos what we had, shall be forever

    Etched in our lives whenever, wherever.

    Longing in pain, silence or loneliness,

    Yet sailing through life’s myriad of happiness.

    I get you – you get me, like no one else,

    & that’s not something only in the past tense.

    Wish I could share how I feel,

    It’s heart wrenching to keep lips forever sealed.

    Poetic or not, now my memories are full of you,

    Hoping against hope, isn’t that dead optimistic too.

    Cos ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone,

    With me holding on to the pieces of my heart all torn.

  • To all the men I have known!

    Curious and bubbling.

    Sanguine and ambitious.

    Laborious and orthodox.

    Street-smart and sensitive.

    Witty and commited.

    Intellectual and poker-faced.

    Some came and left. Some came and never left. Wherever you are – there is definitely something I picked up from our interactions and it’s going to stay with me forever.

    I believe men are a fabulous species to learn from. Tough outside, gentle inside. They are a lovable breed but from Mars indeed!

  • Bestie

    Who’s your best friend mommy? Asked my 7 year old kiddo. This isn’t the first time she’s asked this. I would usually answer you or daddy. But now she wants ‘someone not from the family’ for an answer. And starts rattling off the names she knows – my colleagues, neighbours, my gym buddies, my girl-friends I catch up with.

    Sadly my bestie isn’t know to her. She doesn’t stay in town nor do we meet even once a year. We are both busy adulting; navigating family, career and kids. But when we pause and chat, we talk and we talk like we were talking just yesterday. And yet we know each other like most won’t and got each other’s back, always. If there is one person I know who keeps me in her prayer – thats my girl!

    So you are lucky if you have yours right in town. Hold on tight to that buddy of yours!

  • First Love Yourself

    Humans are social beings. But being social is often mistaken to being dependent.

    A self-reliant and self-assured person can make better connections with others. Connections that meaningfully resonate, last a lifetime and are fulfilling to both parties.

    In a nutshell be thy best friend and companion – no one’s coming to rescue you.

  • (Un) Social Butterfly

    There are the social butterflies.

    There are the anti-social loners.

    And then there are unsocial beings, who crave to be both but are neither.

    They enjoy company in discrete doses but also adore solitude in measured quantities.

    They are not the heart of the party nor the sore thumb sitting in a dark corner.

    They blend in and blend out with ease. Choosing to flutter, choosing to go into the cocoon – all by their own will and might 😎

  • Art of dettachment

    Life is a series of interactions strung together with situations. Staying attached with our true inner self becomes difficult in this journey. Rather one tends to get attached to others, makes oneself appear weaker and needy.

    Practising dettachment requires higher self control. It’s about striking the balance between our duties and restraining from overtly investing into them. Being neutral helps one focus on one’s ‘chi’ and reduce the suffering which comes with life 🙏

  • Marriage Story

    I beg never have you come across any piece of art titled that! Save that brilliant movie which captures the pains of a separation.

    But no series, movie, book captures the essence of what happens happily ever after. Where the ‘reel’ love story ends and the real life begins. Where two individuals start co-existing, discovering each other’s blind spots and navigating couple goals. Not all roses, not all thorns. Now that the journey has gotten rolling, better take the scenic route buddy!